Just had a run in with dd's father.

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he's a f*cking tit! he really is. been trying to phone dp to get it off my chest but he's not answering so thought I'd rant on here!!!!

tit faced arsed! I try not to lower myself to his standard as I think it must be very tiring being so angry all the time but jeeeeeeeesus he makes me soooo angry!

What has he done? Apart of course from making you angry and being a prat!

He was born a prat I think. I was late to drop dd off (sent him a text telling him I would be) but when I got there he just went mental calling me a fcking thins and fcking that whilst I was carrying dd. I try to ignore him but he just winds me up sos much - his anger is just so completely unnecesary. tosser.

Have to dro pdd's overnight stuff off later and really don't want to ghave to face him again.

I'm supposed to be working - and he has wound me up so much. He has ruined my day.

I need to pick dd up early tomorrow for a birthday party and I just know he is going to be soo awkward about it

leave the stuff on his doorstep, knock and run away? leave a note to say why you've done it and watch from the car to make sure he gets it so he cant say it was nicked.

i know what you mean, my x is similar. i never see him now, his parents do all the running about for him cos they dont trust him (they would never admit it to me of course cos they think i am satan in human form, but i know)

She is at his parents as I will only let him have access there (don't trust him). Can't just leave the stuff as have to arrange a time to pick dd up - also would just add ammunition.

I know I'm not the only person in the world that has to live with someone like this in their life - I often read FF's threads and think our children must have the same father!!! but it is just so so so frustrating.

o dear rant away if it helps.

Nightmare! Why are men like this made though as there seem to be so many of them and I cant imagine a single mum wanting her boy to turn out like this!

Swearing like that at you and treating you with so little respect is totally unacceptable. Hope it isnt too bad dropping off the clothes later.

The thing is his parents are there and they just leave him to it - I know why - it's because they can't stop him and yet they still won't see whata he is like.

They think I am as bad aas him WTF!!!!! I am nothing like him. they make me cross as well. (sorry as you can see I've not calmed down yet).

It just makes me want to get petty - I can so see how women resort to using the children in situations like this (not that I'm intending to but do you know what I mean?!)

its easier to think you are as bad cos then they dont have to blame themselves entirely for his behaviour (they must know, they just dont want to admit it).

i know what you mean about wanting to be petty, i would love to do it but i know so many people who dont talk to a badly behaved parent its just not worth it. they will understand when they get older

I know GGG that's what I tell myself. she was getting upset today and I had to say to her it's alright daddy's not cross with you he's cross with mummy.

Which led him to a torraid (sp?) or damn right I'm cross with your fucking mummy she;s a..... etc

I loathe that he has that power and that he has so little respect for his own child that he would make her feel that way and behave that way in front of her!

ARRRGGGHHHH I feel like I'm going to explode

she will hate him for it in years to come. i keep repeating that to myself over and over, its the only way i can stop myself from behaving as badly as xp. doesnt make it any less frustrating now tho. i have just had a couple of weeks of denying ds1 sweets because he is overweight as it is and he managed to put on 7 lbs during half term at his dads. i shudder to think what he had been eating. of course, he had been told to tell me he ate nothing but fruit and veg. grrrrr

I would take my child home if someone spoke to me like that, to be frank.

Im sorry but reading this and many other threads makes me have very little sympathy with those "Dads tha break into parlimament etc"
Im sure there are a few wronged dads but mostly its bastard men who leave women & children, pretned they want to be good dads where in reality good dads woudl treat mums with respect

makles me so angry

To do that Caligula would be to punish my dd though as she enjoys seeing her father and her grandparents.

I take refuge in the fact that he is so bitter and twisted his life really must be miserable as hatred and jealousy eats away at him from the inside out. He's such a loser.

I feel better today, dp came to pick me up Saturday and waited in the car while I took the things to the door (he was out so spoke to his mother). Then dp took me out for a few hours before dropping me home and some girlfriends came round. Dp came with me to collect her the next day as well.

I'd make a point of always taking an escort then, so that he has to abuse you in front of someone if the urge to abuse you overtakes him.

And have you got a videophone? Turn it on and then text the scene to his mother!

It was in front of his mother and father!

Proud of him are they?

Send it to his mates then. Or put it on the internet.

I've often fantasised about putting up a "hall of shame" website, but mostly in relation to dodgy plumbers. Abusive exes would be a good category though.

I have thought of plastering the village with posters yelling anyone who might be interested what a tosser he is and how his parents are terrible hypocritical idiots