Husband wasn't around for my whole pregnancy, wanted me to have an abortion, I chose my baby over him (which wasn't a hard choice as he was being an absolute prick trying to force me to have an abortion). He was also very abusive.
On the lovely drug, baby high after giving birth I asked him to come back.. well it lasted two days before he shouted at me while I was holding our daughter. I asked him to leave then. He still took paternity leave and refused to do anything to help me or her, including when I needed nappies and couldn't get out (still recovering, 2 floors up, no lift, unable to carry pram and baby downstairs on my own) he refused to help. Luckily a friend helped out and has been an absolute angel since the birth.
When my dd was sick he didn't want to know/help, despite me telling him how difficult it is to be a single mum to a sick baby. She had severe reflux/colic and would scream pretty much 24/7, projectile vomit everywhere, I was exhausted!! She also lost lots of weight and was referred to the hospital ?allergy and I was very worried.
The idiot that I was I asked him back when my dd was 4 months old, I really didn't want to do it on my own anymore :( We
worked on making the relationship work and he moved in a month ago. Now he has walked out again.
He won't look after his daughter even though he had took time off work and was meant to, and tells me he isn't here to 'babysit' her. I don't see how its babysitting when it's your own child!! This left me in a really shit situation. I have been trying to contact him for him to visit her, but he won't even pick up. I feel sad that its distressing for her that he has worked out as she has bonded with him now and doesn't know why he has gone.
Please tell me it's going to be ok! I just felt so lonely before and found it really hard coping on my own.