CSA...for the love of..WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM!!!!

[ohhowidespisethecsa]

I have changed my nickname for this one, some of you will know who i am anyway but i wouldnt want these people to know im on to them (and you never know!)

Ok a brief history: Nearly two years ago i first contacted the csa about dd's absent father. They've messed me around all over the place and basically done bugger all. After letters to the chief exec of the csa and my local mp they finally tell me that they can only consider compensation on dd's dad's case when the maintenance from ds's father goes through them too. Ds's father (ok lets call him john) has always paid me. Its not much but actually not much less than they would take. I never wanted our arrangement to go through them but when i lost my job last year i had to give them his details. They never did anything about that either which suited us just fine.

So now i explain to him what they have said and ask him if we could go through the proper channels as it were. He was furious that we had to do this in order to get anywhere with dd's daddy (lets call him tosser), but agreed to do it as a favour to me (we're usually on pretty good terms).

So john gave the csa all his details and after much faffing about it's been arranged. Well, i laugh accordingly. The lady from csa told me he could still pay me direct and it would all be ok because it had been arranged by them. But then, oh sorry no, we cant do that because you have to have the same payment option on both cases. I did mention at this point that tosser had never paid/or agreed to pay a penny but nope, that doesnt matter apparently. It has to be paid through csa.

Tosser and his partner have every scam going. They are comitting so many kinds of fraud im left open mouthed at how they get away with it (and how loaded they must be!). She swears he does not live there. I know different and have told the csa this, many, many times..in fact im blue in the face. They say its "gone to fraud" but strangely they "dont know" how fraud will investigate it. They sent someone to his house in the day time when he is obviously at work anyway, and because she said he didnt live there, they believed her. She even has a claim for maintenance with them aswell, obviously done in order to back up her story that he doesnt live there and to effectively lower any payments made for my dd (should it ever happen).

Why wont anyone listen to me? AAArrrggghhhhh. What else can i possibly do to prove that he lives with her? I know i cant prove he has lived there all this time but just to prove he lives there now would be great.

Any ideas greatly appreciated.

Only 2 years - you are a mere amateur with the CSA. I am 7 years down the line and still not seen a penny except for a paltry £220 compensation for their crappiness!

My MP has been involved in this case on at least an annual basis and still nothing achieved!

To be honest I don't really want any money but it has now come down to a matter of principle - first to make sure that the b*stard is aware that he does have 2 children (even if he chooses to have nothing whatsoever to do with them) and, second to wind the CSA up to prove that they are a complete and utter shambles of an organisation.

Spoke to them last week - the response "well I have your case notes and it seems that there have been 4 changes in the last 2 years but none of them have been followed up!!"

Oh btw you are lucky you know where the ex lives - mine initially took out a court order to prevent me knowing his address. Now under the European Convention on Human Rights I can no longer apply to the court to make him reveal his address as this is considered an invasion of his privacy!!!!

Still I guess this is ok as it means the 'government'have to spend more money on paying me benefits!

pains in the arse and nothing but. i have to work so my babies tosser thought he would get away with it (no benefit - no claim -no chance ) he is making me have a dna test to "stall" things so he can "sort his head out", booked and paid for the damn thing then didnt turn up and apparently the csa still have to give him time. u all have my sympathies and to the lady whose charming ex got a court order fr his "human rights" you can very easily find someones address. i will send you the link. . why do these men not realise its not about them and still in this day and age get away with ignoring their responsibilites this way. and does a child not have a fundamental right to be provided for by both parents

To get their address you need to be sure that they are in a long term location - seems that he has spent the last 7 years moving every 6 months. His mother is too stupid and protective of him to give me his address - but I like to remind her once a year that the kids are doing really well (thanks to my fantastic skills) and by the way your son now owes me 7 years back maintenance.

Like yours he has decided that it is far better to stay out of work (guess he sends his little new wife - 20 years his junior - out to work). He can't work because he is sorting his head out - lazy git with a borderline personality disorder.

The classic is that the CSA have sort of assessed him as having to pay about £5 per week for the kids, but he is on the wrong sort of benefit for them to deduct it from his payments!!!

Oh trust me I could go on and on and on with this matter.

The one thing that consoles me is the fact that every time I throw a paddy at the CSA, they will contact him just to remind him, and hopefully it is enough to keep him mental!