daddy

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Ds father hasn't bothered with him since he was 3 months old,not seen him,spoken to him,given Christmas or birthday presents,wouldn't pay maintenance,his employer has to pay it to csa.
Now ds has started calling my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years daddy.
Im bit worried I should stop him and correct him hes not his daddy,to stop confusion and him hating me when hes older.one day he will need to know about his father.
Hes 5 btw
What do I do

For me the issue here is what happens if you break up. I was in a relationship with my Ex who had a son from her first marrage. Maybe it made it a bit easier that we had two children together that he had brothers ... his brothers had a dad ... hence i'm dad. His biological farther saw his so little that DSS referres to him by his first name. But it does mean that when we broke up I was in it for the long term and hence was in a position to keep treating DSS as just another part of my family after breaking up with his mother. Doing the step-parenting isn't easy ... especially if you weren't in those formative years of your childs life.

If I was you I'd wait for that signal from your boyfriend that he's in both your lives for the long run. What that is ... marrage ... his own child with you ... I really wouldn't like to say ... but once your both SURE your there for the longrun I'd make it clear that your partner is not his biological farther ... by saying he's a step-daddy ... hence I'm sure the shortened form of just daddy or dad will be used. It's just how the hell you know when someone's there for the long term ...

Now my Ex has remarried the children refer to her husband as their 'step-dad' as who he is in their family, but use his first name in converstations. Mehh sometimes it can nark me ... but I know that if Ex and her husband were to split up the emotional impact of the children would be minimal. Hell I can put up with my own feelings and let the kids get on with whatever terminology they need to understand the different relationships they have.

Thank u for replyin.
It is very hard to answer whether were still going to be together in say 2 years time.we have talked about marriage and another child.he seems very happy being called daddy.ds calls him by first name but refers to him as daddy when other people ask : my daddy has this,my daddy does that.
I just feel so sorry for him for him to be punished by a self minded selfish father.why should he go without having a daddy.