is this reasonable for overnight visits?

[humptydidit]

Just looking for a yes or no answer really...

Have arranged with exH for him to have kids to stay for a week in the summer holidays. When we made this plan, he had his own 3 bed house etc. Now he has quit job and moved back in with his mum and is proposing to have kids to stay there...
Bare bones of situation is:
3 bed house
My MIL in one bedroom and SIL in another.
ExH has the box room for himself.
my kids are age 5 and 6 and 1. (2 boys and a girl)
Downstairs is thru lounge/dining room and kitchen.

EXH seems to think kids will share the box room with him or sleep in the living room.

I don't think this is really ok for a whole week?

AIBU???
Please be honest, I am trying to figure it out before I speak to exH about it!

Yes, I think they'll be fine. They'll probably find it great fun. Maybe his mum and sister will rearrange things so that they have a larger room for that week?

can't dh sleep in the living room and kids in his box room? at least that way the adults have space in the evenings and the kids can sleep without being disturbed when dad comes to bed

otherwise tent in the back garden with all of them? mine love camping out in the holidays!

sorry, should have been exh not dh!

Yes think it's fine.

We used to all sleep In my dad's double bed / 2 in the bed 1 on the floor as we got older, while he slept on the sofa, until he remarried and moved to a bigger house. This was until we were: Me 13, dsis 10, db 6.

Had a great time at my dads and never thought anything of it.

I realise that this is me who doesn't want to see the bright side, but honestly a 6, a 5 and a 1 year old in a box room???

Ok, need to suck it up and be honest with myself that I actually don't want them to go

Op, of course you don't want them to go but they will go and they will probably come back saying what a great time they had blah blah blah.

And however hard to try not to let it irritate you, it will. In massive, irrational amounts.

They will be fine all in together. Try to plan some nice things to do that week that you can't usually do with dcs in tow.

However hard you try

It will be good for them. Plan to do lots of things whilst they are away that are normally difficult etc.

I'm very impressed you can be honest enough with yourself to admit you are objecting to the arrangements because of your own feelings. It's the reality of separated parenting and your kids will love you more for putting them first and not burdening them with guilt about going to see their Dad. Agree with Cargirl - plan yourself a nice treat.

YABU - regardless of the sleeping arrangements. Kids see any sort of bizarre sleeping arrangements as an adventure. If you start being awkward about it you'll only put the dampeners on it for them.