feel so alone

[youngmummy17]

My sons 'father' doesn't want to be invovled in his life as he can't get along with me, I feel unsupported and that I'm failing as a mother not being ablt to give him a father, I get really lonely and feel I have no one to turn to as my parents are always busy or just give me bad advice and say I should forget about him, I find it very difficult to come to terms with being a lone parent and just feel so alone wwith no where to turn to

It is really hard to adjust at first honey, it will get better. How old are you? Do you have any friends with kids that could possibly look after yours so you can go and do something for yourself?

When I became a single mum it devestated me and I beat myself up and blamed myself an awful lot for just about everything. It took time, but I now study at home, have started going out and meeting people who have kids, and generally trying not to dwell on things.

Don't think just because your childs father doesn't want to be involved that it is your fault or your lacking in mummy skills! You have to do what is best by your child now and focus on that.

Maybe try and talk to your parents and see if they could have your child an afternoon over the weekend and hook up with some friends.

I don't really know what else to say honey, but it really will get better.

My DD's father doesn't get along with me either, that's not unusual AFAIK for seperated parents not to get along, but why does this stop him from seeing his son?
Can't he just pick up your son and drop him off afterwards, thus spending as little time with you as possible, or is this not an option?

I'm 17, and I have friend with children but everyones to busy with ccollege etc to help out and my sons father isn't allowed unsupervised access as his very irresponsible as my sons only 5 months old I don't feel my son is safe with him

Have a look on the net at SureStart, maybe there is something in your area you can go to with you ds?

Yes I go there but most women I meet are married I feel like an outsider then when fathers get brought up I just start crying

I was just like that too, couldn't stand baby clubs where the women all spoke of their dc's fathers, used to gut me everytime, but you just have to accept things as they are. Don't be sad for your son, he has mummy who seems to care about him an awful lot. It's hard work being a lone parent, try and be proud of yourself for getting on with it. :)