need a short rant about the ex

[SimpleSingleDad]

She's a moron.

Went to pick up DD this evening after contact with her mother, and (tbf lightly, with a smile) she said to our 3.9 yr old DD "come here, little bitch".

I said don't call her that, she said she was only joking. I said it wasn't funny, and knowing there's no point in trying to make her see any sort of sense, or worse, arguing with her in front of DD, changed the subject.

I would rather have slapped her. Little bitch? She's a great big fucked up idiot of a bitch. How dare she call our DD that.

Fucking pathetic stupid ex.

I know it's nothing in the grand scheme of things, and doubtless many have had far worse, but she really pisses me off.

Just wanted to off load. No need for a response.

How awful. Seriously, I can understand why you are upset. Thankfully, your DD will probably have forgotten by now

I would have another quiet word with her and tell her its unacceptable.

She is a Moron.

A disgusting moron

That's a horrendous thing for a mother to say to her child! No wonder you need to vent!

That's awful. I hope your DD has forgotten, although I remember one of my parents called me that once as some sort of joke! Because I had made a joke about them! It did not feel good to have a parent say that word to me. Maybe you can say something to her in a way that is totally calm and try not to cause an argument about it.

How horrible for you and your DD :(

Thanks.

I'm pretty sure DD didn't catch it or understand it, as she won't let me call her anything but her name - even sweetie is met with "I'm not sweetie" + .

DD's speech is delayed, so it's hard to talk with her. All just another thing to deal with, and another reminder of why I'm RP and not the deadbeat.

Ugh, that's disgusting. Can you put some kind of conditions on contact that she's not to be verbally abusive to the poor wee thing? I don't know why anyone would call a 3-year-old something like that- horrible.

what about "gosh you really couldnt be more charming, could you?". works with my DH's ex whenever I have to cross paths with her and she starts making some snide remarks..! might deflate her a bit.

ladydeedy - I'd love to chuck her a put down and that's a good one, but it would just start an argument. I find that with her that taking the moral high ground and being mature is more satisfying - she gets told / shown what a spoilt brat she is, I don't get drawn into trading insults.

WwibblyBibble - I think I will look to do that at the next court hearing. She may not meet SS definition of a bad mother, but she's a loooong way short of what most would consider a half decent parent.

good luck with everything. She sounds terrible! I hope it all works out.