Hello, after a long, difficult and fraught two years, I have finally decided to file for divorce (long story...check my history and say YAY!) and would appreciate some advice about surviving in a brave new lone world! I have been married for 13 years and have two beautiful boys: DS1 is 11 and will be starting secondary schools in Sept and DS2 is 7.
I live in the West Midlands area and I am looking to move to St Albans for several reasons:
? I married into a traditional Indian family and my in-laws are going to make life very difficult for bringing shame to the family honour (I?m actually quite worried how ?difficult? they are going to make my life as the boys are their only grandsons; culturally this is hugely significant) and want a put a distance between us which meant that wouldn?t we wouldn?t be subject to their abuse on a daily/weekly basis.
? I have a fantastic job, which allows me to work from home with some travel to London. Following a recent promotion, the travel to London is likely to increase; hence the need to move closer to London.
? My parents both died and I have very little family support. What is left of my family may well diminish once they discover I am getting divorced. My network of friends live in the St Albans, London and Brighton area.
So, having made this bold decision, I now face another dilemma: SCHOOLS! How do I ensure my boys get into good state schools? I am looking to rent a house, though the monthly rentals fees are surprisingly shocking compared to the Midlands, and I will have to assess what I can afford after I?ve met my solicitor, which means I am open to living in other areas north of London as long they fit my criteria:
? Good state schools
? Diverse community
? commute to London within 20-35min
Really hope someone can help me with suggestions and any useful advice/links. Many thanks.