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Is he my boyfriend?, my partner? or what?

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TheMotherOfAllDilemmas · 05/05/2011 23:08

I really don't know how to introduce the man I'm with.

We have been together for more than 2 years. He lives in a city 50 miles away but we manage to see each other 2-3 times a week. We are not going out with other people, but after more than 2 years together I think that if he was really interested in marrying me, he would have already take action to make it possible, which he hasn't.

There are mitigating circumstances and good reasons on both sides why we cannot live together now or in the foreseeable future. Having said that, if at this precise moment he proposed I wouldn't know what to say.

I have been introducing him as my "boyfriend" but to be honest being the 2 of us in our 40s I think the term is somewhat stupid. However, he is not my partner either (he doesn't live with me, or takes any practical responsibility to make my life easier apart of cooking dinner from time to time and organise things to do in the weekends?

So... how do I introduce him? boyfriend, partner or what?

OP posts:
corlan · 06/05/2011 14:38

'Fancy Man'
'Gentleman Caller'
'Fuck Buddy'? Grin

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TheMotherOfAllDilemmas · 06/05/2011 16:32

... and to thing I was thinking "Time waster" but I thought it was a bit disrespectful...

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hairylights · 06/05/2011 17:50

He's your boyfriend. I think 'timewaster' is a little harsh!

Unless you really want to live together/marry him, what is the problem?

stardust86 · 08/05/2011 13:43

I think the word partner sounds a bit more grown up, boyfriend always makes me think of teen relationships.

Alternatively what about "my man" ?

redgrapebasket · 08/05/2011 21:15

I'm also in a relationship with someone I've known for a few years but we don't live together. I rarely describe my man as anything tbh - I introduce him by giving his name and people just figure out that we're in a relationship because of the way we interact. As for whether we live together or helping me with the practical side of my life, it's not really anyone else's business, so I don't know why I'd want to let them know that anyway.

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 09/05/2011 11:37

Do you want a higher level of commitment from this man? Are you at an age where you are concerend about how much longer you will be able to have DC ir you want more DC? Because, like RGB says, what's wrong with just introuducing him by his name?

bustersmummy · 09/05/2011 11:39

If I'm pushed into the situation where I have to explain my relationship with my DP/BF (which is what I call him on here - we're together, we're committed to each other but we aren't living together and I'm far too fucking old to have a boyfriend) ..... I call him my other half.

Which actually now I think about it is cringemaking.

moomoo1967 · 12/05/2011 14:31

I call my other half, just that or my chap or my bloke..... don't think partner applies as we don't live together and as over 40 like you say boyfriend seems a little juvenile

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