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Anyone tried speed dating?

8 replies

aubergine70 · 01/05/2011 21:52

My friend and I have both been LP for a couple of years now and bemoaning the fact we never meet any decent men. We're both in our forties so a bit past it for pulling down the local night club. We're considering trying speed dating and was wondering if it's a fun night out or just a bit of a meat market for desperate 40 year olds.

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WillIEverBeASizeTen · 01/05/2011 21:56

Have thought about this myself. Makes sense really, a few minutes to make (or have someone make) and impact. Saves all that sodding about with one fella and a whole evening Grin

WillIEverBeASizeTen · 01/05/2011 21:57

an impact

riddlemeree · 01/05/2011 21:59

Yes. Was a while ago, probably (counts fingers)...7 years ago now when I was about 25, just before I met DH (who I did not meet speed dating!)

It was fun. Think you need to be generally outgoing and interested in people to enjoy it as a fun night.

Meat market....not really I don't think. Don't remember the ages of the other women really, quite a few in their 20s though I think.

Niceguy2 · 01/05/2011 23:04

Yes, I did this a few times a couple of years back when I was still single.

It was fun and I found it way better than internet dating. Obviously being a bloke I can only tell you about my side of things.

Obviously the first thing to do is go for a venue with a similar age bracket. One I went to didn't really enforce it (I suspect they had to make the numbers up). So you end up with like 40+ talking to a 23 year old which is nice but ultimately a waste of each other's time.

I think you do need to have a certain level of confidence that you can keep a conversation going for 3 minutes. It's not that hard really. If in doubt, revert to the usual topics like job, hobbies etc. By your 10th "date" you'll be sick of the same questions so having a couple of fun ones is a good idea.

Most people are very nice, even if you are obviously not your type. There's only one lady who was so rude that I ended up just saying "Why don't we just not bother and just stay silent for the remainder of the time we have left"

At the end of the day though remember that Rome wasn't built in a day. Just because you don't meet Mr Right on your first try, doesn't mean you shouldn't go back and try again. Let's face it, do you stop going to the pub because you didn't pull one night?

I went about 3-4 times. Got a fair few ticks, of which I managed to get a few dates. Dating one lady for a while who did turn into a bit of a bunny boiler after I dumped her but that's another story.....

Giselle99 · 02/05/2011 19:17

Don't bother - waste of time. If you meet anyone it'll be the sort of idiot who'll dump you after a couple of months as you're 'a 7/10 ' and why stick with a 7/10 when 'there's plenty more fish in the sea'. Who'll probably call you a bunny boiler if you dare contact him after the relationship is over etc.

Just enjoy being single. Honestly, it's less aggro.

bladderack · 02/05/2011 22:40

NiceGuy and Giselle - Have you two met? Is there something you want to tell us?

Mzdemeanour · 02/05/2011 22:54

Yes - hated it both times I did it and would never ever bother again!

Niceguy2 · 02/05/2011 23:05

Not that I am aware of bladderack Grin

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