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Does anybody else feel bit jealous by the Royal Wedding and wish they weren't single?

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AMAZINWOMAN · 28/04/2011 23:13

I have been watching the build up to the Royal Wedding and I think it's lovely the way they have been together for 7 or 8 years and are still obviously in love. To cope with all the media attention must be love! I do think they are a lovely couple and wish them lots of luck.

However, I wish I had the love and support of a great man. Although I can't see a man fitting into my family as we get on so well together, I sometimes wish I had a partner for me.

It is only this year it has sometimes bothered me. Valentines Day was hard for the first time ever and maybe this Royal wedding has highlighted me being single.

I did join POF but after meeting a few men over a six month period I lost the will lol I don't meet decent men in my day to day life and single men I meet are single for a reason lol.

I thought I had accepted being single but seeing the wedding has made me a bit sad. Does anybody else feel like this?

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BBBee · 29/04/2011 09:55

yes!

Jellykat · 29/04/2011 10:07

And me!!! Silly really as people get married everyday..

flippinada · 29/04/2011 10:27

I so symapthise with your feelings OP but do I feel jealous -Hell no! Who would want to marry into that family?

flippinada · 29/04/2011 10:30

Sorry, I realise that's not the point of your post OP - didn't mean to be dismissive of your feelings. I think events like the RW (esp when they are being trailed everybloodywhere) are going to trigger all sorts of reactions about weddings, being single, not meeting anyone etc.

BelleDameSansMerci · 29/04/2011 10:46

Nope... Can't think of anything worse than marrying into a family of emotionally distant, controlling, blood-sport types.

But, as flipp said, weddings bring up all sorts of emotions. Anyway, OP, you may could be doing the same thing this time next year (well, maybe not Westminster Abbey unless you're very grand). You never know.

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AMAZINWOMAN · 29/04/2011 14:08

Thanks for your comments. I'm not normally bothered by weddings, but I think maybe as they have known each other for 10 years and are still in love is lovely. Friends I know who have been married/together for that long aren't happy and I prefer being single to unhappily married. To know each other for so long and be so happy together is lovely.

Yes, BelleDameSansMerci it may be me next year! I'll let you know.

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TheOriginalNutcracker · 29/04/2011 14:16

I know exactly what you mean OP. I have been single now for over 5yrs and am likely to stay that way, so no wedding day ever for me.

Things like today do highlight being single, and they are a bt hard, but thats just how it is I suppose.

Very happy for them though, and absolutly loved the dress.

FoundationGarmentsOnOnesHead · 29/04/2011 14:24

It's not the actual wedding that has made me feel sad I'm single. It's the fact that they have been together a few years and are still in love, which you can see in their eyes.

Meh.

beingsetup · 29/04/2011 14:45

I thought it was lovely but no I didn't expect to be a poor single mum of four no....

STIDW · 29/04/2011 15:47

No. Been there, got the t-shirt and I rather like being single.

hariboegg · 29/04/2011 16:25

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JaquiChanFeelsBlue · 29/04/2011 16:43

Haribo, could have written your post myself. It's the support/affection/closeness that I envy. Have recently started looking for my someone recently .

allgonebellyup · 29/04/2011 17:42

yes, its made me feel bloody miserable actually today- my dc have gone away with their dads and i am alone for 4 days. Was meant to have a date with a friend of a friend i have fancied for years tonight but he has just cancelled, saying he cant get his "head round it" and is now ignoring my calls.

JaquiChanFeelsBlue · 29/04/2011 18:19

bellyup, that really sucks......you need chocolate and wine!

Jellykat · 29/04/2011 19:30

bellyup.. Nnoooo - his 'head around' what exactly?? and ignoring your calls? What a Twat!

I'm currently on day 3 of no DC, i know how lonely it can be.. Any mates you can go out with tonight?

bunsandroses · 29/04/2011 21:11

OP I totally felt like this today. I felt so happy for them and it was such a lovely occasion but I pretty much wept my way through it (admittedly I have always liked a good cry at a wedding!). I feel so sad that I didn't get married, although obviously glad that I didn't marry my ex.
I bet everyone felt a bit sad today, after all it's a fairytale and who doesn't want that?

bellyup that is crappy, sorry but he sounds like a bit of an idiot.
I think bank holidays are hard if you're on your own, they seem to stretch on and you are surrounded spending quality family time together.

On a positive note, none of us know what might be round the corner, Harry's still single after all!
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manticlimactic · 29/04/2011 22:54

Reading your OP, I could have written it (including the bit about POF ).

I'm not one to get all mushy over weddings - or feeling sorry for myself for that matter. But today when I watched them getting married I did have a tear in my eye and wondered if I would ever meet someone. I've been single for two years now after dating someone for a year and before that I was single for 5 and honestly think I'll be single until the day I breathe my last breath. The weid thing is that 99% of the time I actually love being single.But that 1% of me

sincitylover · 30/04/2011 15:36

Me too - don't particurlarly want to get married again but have felt slightly meh that she will never have to worry about housing or money.

And how I'll never have that sense of optimism about any relationship again - Im too scarred by my marriage breakdown.

I do love someone but we'll probably never be together. ho hum

Cloudbase · 01/05/2011 16:09

Me too. Felt really happy for them, but a part of me was breaking inside watching the way they looked at eachother, the way he told her she looked beautiful, the obvious love and friendship between them - in short, all the things that turned out to be lies in my own marriage.

I would love to have that one day, but at the moment doing the 'surviving one day at at time' thing as working full time with 2 pre-schoolers. Also, the whole string of bank holidays hasn't helped. Buns, think you are right about everyone around you seeming to be spending quality time together - I sometimes feel so left out (when rationally I shouldn't) and have even got a mite paranoid that some friends and/or potential partners (although they love me) can't be bothered to, or get put off dealing with my two children

equinox · 01/05/2011 17:18

I hate to sound so cynical but although I am sure we all wish them the utmost happiness in the world there is no real guarantee it will last and who knows how they will feel in ten years time.

Not being a killjoy honest just don't think it is set in stone that they will stay together until the end of their days.

Ok shoot me down someone!!

farkthatforagameofsoldiers · 01/05/2011 17:22

No, I felt only relief that I was not married any more. Even good marriages are hard work and that is how I see weddings, the beginning of a life time of compromise and hard work. I know I sound like a right old misery guts.

However I did get a few lumps in my throat and want it to work out for them because a good marriage is an amazing thing, there just aren't that many of them about.

valiumbandwitch · 01/05/2011 17:31

Yes, but I imagine most very ordinary married couples who've been staring at each other's profile as they watch tv together probably looked at it and felt jealous!

equinox · 02/05/2011 10:59

Too true farkthat and valium spot on!

doeslifebeginat40 · 02/05/2011 22:13

I'm not jealous, but I haven't been to a wedding in years and the service took me back to mine and all those vows and promises which he wasn't able to keep...the DCs just thought I was being emotional, but I shocked myself that it still hurts 4 years after we split.... and yes I wish I wasn't single

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