Relocating with children

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Hi,

I have 2 kids, 6 and 5 with 2 different exes:
Ex 1 - sees only his own son, all highly amicable, contact arranged around his shift pattern, very flexible.
Ex 2 - sees both kids in contact centre following 6 month break in contact, very hostile, cant communicate, has been verbally threatening to me and warned (unofficially) by police.

I lost my job 2 months ago, and have struggled financially since, my house is now being reposessed. I am thinking about going to live with family (uncle, his partner and my dad) in Wales (north coast). Ex 1 is supportive, he can see benefit of move to me and kids. I know Ex 2 will try and stop the move and wondered what the courts view will be on it, or if i need to get their permission or not? Has anyone relocated over and against exs objections?

(Ive also posted in legal .. not sure where is best)

Thanks

I did exactly this 7 years ago (coincidentally West Wales).

At the time DS2s dad had weekend contact arrangements via a court order,although we had a review due.. during which i notified the court of my intentions explaining how it would benefit my DCs - and it wasn't a problem (even though dad objected)..Contact was just rearranged around school holidays.

DS2s dad now admits that it was a good move

Given that your house is being repossessed, and ex1 is in support, relocating seems like a good plan. I'd say talk to your solicitor about amending the existing order, presuming there is one.

Good luck.

I had to relocate to Scotland last year and had a biger problem than you'll have as I was taking the children out of the jurisdiction of the English and Welsh courts. He took me to court with a Prohibitive steps order but didn't get anywhere as my solicitior argued my human rights as a citizen of europe allowed me to reloacte withing Europe - all hideously stressful and very expensive though. As you're going to Wales - and therefore staying within 'England and Wales' (I'm presuming you're in England now!!) you should be fine. You could write to both exes explaining the situation and your reasons for moving and what you'll do to maintain contact - SKYPE, regular calls and contact when possible just toprve you've done the right thing. this is a fantastic site - you won't need all the info but it gives you a starting point about what to cover is he does get arsey and takes you to court - you need to prove that the children's standard of living won't suffer - provide veidence of schools, healthcare etc. Good luck - you'll be fine, hope the move goes well x