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I want to talk/rant/maybe cry a little bit, just not sure how to...

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ploddingalongnicely · 04/04/2011 20:24

I dont even know how to start this, or explain how i'm feeling, is anyone else feeling a bit...lost??

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Orangepuffle · 04/04/2011 20:25

Constantly. Some days I am feeling positive, others I just worry.

What's happening with you?

GypsyMoth · 04/04/2011 20:25

a bit fed up if that helps?

whats up?

VioletV · 04/04/2011 20:29

Always. Lost, lonely and well not my self if that makes sense? Why don;t you just get it all out and see if it helps? x

evolucy7 · 04/04/2011 20:30

Yes I think I feel like this...however, I certainly don't think that it is just lone parents that do, I think it can be just parents, maybe generally mothers, who feel it. I know several married mums who feel exactly the same, you're just muddling along, putting the children first.

doormat · 04/04/2011 20:35

plodding whenever i feel like this i just go and cry to myself...i am a married mum of 6, with my youngest ds just athome...i feel lost everyday, lonely in my heart and dont know whether i am coming or going most of the time..

i think like evolucy said it is part of being a mum..we all worry...we dont want to burden anyone so we keep it in as long as we can...

go and have a good cry, scream and punch ya pillow, rant to yourself and believe me you will feel better tomorrow

chin up sweetheart x

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ploddingalongnicely · 04/04/2011 21:17

aww, just knowing i'm not the only one feeling out of sorts for no reason makes me feel better, for months now its been bothering me. I went and bought a diary thinking i needed to get stuff out but i just didnt have anything to say in it.

on the other hand sometimes its a million and one tiny things that together get you down, but trying to list them makes it sound pathetic!

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refmum · 04/04/2011 21:34

me too,have a ((hug))

been a longggg day,feel emotional and a bit scared for the future Sad

tomorrow is a new day x

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ploddingalongnicely · 04/04/2011 21:38

hariboegg, you sound like you need a hug, or at the very least someWine

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ploddingalongnicely · 04/04/2011 21:39

oo sorry cross posted, refmum you need some Wine too x

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refmum · 04/04/2011 21:41

thanks plodding x Grin

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ploddingalongnicely · 04/04/2011 22:24

I have Wine in my fridge but its the cheapest of the cheap and undrinkable without lemonade...which i dont have Sad why oh why did i not stop at the shop on my way home..

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Meriva · 07/04/2011 13:26

Feeling really bad today. DS's dad said I was a joke as a mother and needed to do a better job. All because I wouldn't give him what he wanted. He always does this to me, things go along alright then he says really nasty things as he knows I will take it very personally and get myself really upset. He is an emotional bully and he knows how to play with my mind and emotions.

Really don't know how much more I can take. Just want to run away or end it all. I really try my best and DS is doing well at school, my friends and family say I do a great job but it just takes one put down from that creep to destroy me and any self-belief I have.

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Montessorisam · 07/04/2011 19:59

Can I join in please? Felt the lowest ever today. Me and DH had a couple of days back togther 'trying again'. Still not bonding/connecting/communicating on any level.

Feel lost, sad, down and confused! Days are soooooo long with 3 kids. And mine have been put to bed 30 minutes ago and are still taking it in turns to come down and tell me they can't sleep!!! ARRRRGGHHH

You are not the only oneXX Hugs

MavisEnderby · 07/04/2011 20:18

OhhugsxxFeeling similar too tonight.DD screamed blue murder at bathtime and i am sure the neighbours thought i was murdering her.DS is in a strop because i wouldn't have dns for a sleepover tonight (have had looongg day at work).Even the promise of having them at weekend has not convinced him that I am not the most evil mother on the planet.To cap it all he came out with the gem "If daddy was still alive he would have let dns stay over".Humph.I now feel 10x worse.They know what buttons to press some days!!

Big hugs to all of the other "Lost girls" :)

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ploddingalongnicely · 07/04/2011 20:45

aww Mavis they certainly know how to cut you deep dont they. I wish they could actually invent something to actually give you a hug when people send you virtual ones!

Meriva, try not to take any notice of him, what a arse. So frustrating when blokes, or anyone for that matter makes someone else feel like crap just to make themselves feel better.

Montessorisam, that sounds horrible to both be trying and it not quite clicking, try the bold approach and try having a spell it out chat with each other.. obviously easier said than done, maybe fill up on wine first!!

and finally hariboegg, I now have both wine and fizzy...spritzer me up!!!

Is it sad I quite like the sound of "lost girls" reminds me of neverland..but maybe the sip of wine i've just had has gone to my head already!!

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Meriva · 16/04/2011 19:24

DS has just come back from spending a week with his dad, who demanded half the hols. Found out from DS that dad wasn't there every night as he was working - news to me as I was told he was a house husband! So the wife put DS to bed every night. And from what DS has said about the week he seemed to have spent most of it with step-brother who is double his age. On one of their un-supervised outings DS came flying off on his bike on a steep hill and has badly grazed all his arm and elbow, has taken the skin off large part. Yet his dad didn't think to tel lme about it when he dropped DS off! Only when DS took jacket off that I saw it. This is second time this has happened. About two years ago he came off his bike and crashed into a house and into a prickly bush - he still has the scars from being cut so badly. And incidently didn't have a helmet on that time and he was only 3!!!!

I know we can't wrap them up in cotton wool but evry time hes up there for a long holiday something happens and I am the last to know! And this is the guy who has the cheek to tell me i'm a joke as a parent!!!!

Another rant - fed up with DS dads wife sticking her oar in. And why should I let DS go to their house to apparently spend time with his dad for her to be putting him to bed as dad working and then during day dad to busy looking after their DD to spend timewith my DS!!!!!!!!!

Am I being out of order?!?!?!! So f###king fed up with the pair of them!!!!!

Rant over :(

Megancleo · 16/04/2011 20:35

Meriva, big hug and I know exactly where your're coming from! I'm truly trying hard to work on not letting ex's comments affect me, I know its just another form of control and rubbish coming from him-like I said, working on it! Smallest dc (older dc choose not to) just come back from his and the normal chorus of "Do we have to go next week?" and he wouldn#t let us go to bed so as we sleep later in morning, he stays in bed all morning and expects dc to look after each other and is grumpy-yet he takes enjoyment in telling me I'm a joke of a parent all the rest of the time. The consolation is when the older dc say, "mum, why do you take him seriously, he doesn''t even remember which class we're in!" Grief, I've lost my self-confidence so much in that lousy relationship...but at least I got out. Lets move beyond these lousy men and their worthless views!!

Montessorisam · 17/04/2011 20:46

My ex also can make me feel like a pile of poo in one comment. He likes to see me pissed off so that he can tell me what a bit££ I am. Emotional blackmail. On friday he asked if I could do the school pick up when he had promised the kids that he would be there for them. I said that I would but he had to be sure to pick them up from me by 4pm and if he wasn't there then forget it. He called me a nasty bi@$%. Surely that makes sense doesn't it? if I hadn't have said that he would have come whenever he felt like it. Basically if I don't give in to him it gives him a license to be as horrible as he wants to me.

Meriva - you do not sound like a joke of a parent! You sound like you care very much! Just the fact that you are on here means that you care doesn't it!?

Let's face it we all would do anything for our kids wouldn't we! Big hugs and caramel flapjacks to us allX

Meriva · 18/04/2011 21:49

Thanks ladies. The things we go through for our kids :)

But we know we are better than their dads as we don't sink to their level and keep our self respect.

Single mums rule! :o

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