Feeling stressed ( a bit of a long one!)

[Anngeree]

Some of you may have read earlier posts about DS whose 7 having been poorly for several months:( He started being sick last Oct then from November he was sick almost every day up to 20x he went to hospital had allsorts of tests everything came back as negative although sickness was ongoing.

Sickness eventually started to subside in Feb (vomiting 3x a day) so started sending him bck to school upon doctors advice following 10wk absence however still had no diagnosis and ds was suffering varying symptoms on top of sickness inc earache, diaorrhoea, bad throat, dizziness so wasn't really able to attend full time.

2wks ago ds was refered to another hospital for a second opinion and it's thought he's had stomach bug which has gone into the bowel leaving him with hyper-sensitivity & a lot of pain. Which makes sense in some respects but doesn't explain why it wasn't picked up in tests or why none of the medicine ds was prescribed worked.

Apparently theres no reason for him continuing to be sick it's now psychological basically because he's getting the same pain that originally caused sickness (due to hyper-sensitivity) so he's worrying about being sick and the worry is making him sick. He's been refered to psychologist and given medicine for anxiety but doctor says he has to attend school even if in pain he's got to learn to live with it & i've got to play it down & the teachers have to let him leave the class so he can go & be sick or use the toilet as & when needed basically until anxiety disappears & he's no longer suffering symptoms.

I feel absolutely awful taking ds to school when he's unwell and i'm starting to doubt my own judgement.He managed to go to school 8 days in a row then on thu night he came home complaining of flu like symptoms so he's off again it just seems like if it's not one thing it's another. I took ds to school Fri morning as with him being off for so long I felt I had to take him so they could see for themselves how he was and that I wasn't keeping him off unnessessarily but just ended up stressing myself out & ds for school to send us home together.

School policy is if children are sick they are to stay at home until they are better as they don't have the facilities to care for sick children but hospital say he needs to go feel as if i'm trapped between the devil & the deep blue sea & I've got to try & ignore my maternal instincts.:( The hospital have spoke to the school & the teacher is accommodating but it's rare that you get a chance to speak directly to the class teacher so I keep having to explain the situation to different people

Never been in a situation like this until last year ds had always attended school regularly always been healthy so finding it quite difficult to cope at times as he hasn't been himself for over 5 mths now & the longest the sickness has stopped is 9 days before it has returned again:(

The most annoying thing is because i'm a single parent my son will go down on govt records as another child from a lone parent family who has mental health problems it just seems so unfair :(

I'm only on here briefly but didn't want you to go unanswered. So sorry you and your ds are going through this. I hope they manage to find a resolution which helps him very soon.

It may be a phase which ends as quickly as it started, but nonetheless, I can't imagine how stressful it must be for you to deal with alone every day.

hello sorry to hear that you have been having a tough time.
I wouldn't worry yourself about govt records. Your child is ill so deserves
to be at home. I would be more concerned for your child's health (as I can see you are). Also about his education. He has missed alot now. Is there any chance you can home schoool him? As he misses more and more education this may start to have an effect on him too as he will not beable to keep up at school when he is well enough to be there
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Is there a situation that your son is upset about and needs help to sort out? Apart from the illness. what was happening in his life before he got sick. Was there some trouble around home /school that was stressing him that you can think of?

I guess he has had his eyes checked? Only my son started to be sick and have migrains and the doctor sent him for eye test now he wears glasses. The headaches are quite rare now.

I have read your story before. I can understand alittle how hard this is for you. I myself have become ill since Oct last year as a single Mum it is tough.
Hope things improve for you soon.

Thanks for comments... can't think of anything around the time the sickness started that would have caused this reaction, racked my brains started questioning if there was something i'd done or if something at school even asked ds if anything had been bothering him but all drawn a blank. It had just been a normal day in Oct ds had bn to school had come home had tea then took himself upstairs when he came down the told me he'd been sick and sickness has never really cleared up since, longest he's gone without sickness is 9 days.
I asked for some work to be sent home from school before christmas but they said because it was coming up to christmas it was all craft work and he wasn't missing much then after christmas when he was still unwell they sent worksheets out for him to do which I sent back to school once he'd completed and he's had reading books sent home aswell. I've been attempting to send him back to school since Feb once sickness subsided but he's only managed 8 days in a row at most before being poorly again. His immune system just doesn't seem to be functioning properly and it's only in the last 2wks they've had any idea what may have made him ill in the first place.
In one breath hospital hare saying they've done thorough checks in another they're saying we actually missed that he had stomach infection and bowel infection. It's gone on for so long now it's starting to stress me out.