background ; ongoing issues, court order for supervised contact, events in late 2010 leading to no contact. have offered supervised at eg cafe with DS who wants to see him but ex refuses saying is "abusive" to meet in cafe and has to be in his home. . i cant send carer to his home as exP assaulted a carer in his home last year....
exP birthday - he invited DC, said his friend M and others would be there with DC. this seemed fine as lots other adults around. i called M to ask her to pick up DS and DD2 (dd1 refused to go but dd2 said ok so long as M came to take her there) and take them. (contact order provides for adult supervising to collect and drop off DC).
M agreed willingly. exP got mad that i talked to M without his permission and M called to say she could not come to collect them as exP said no. so Dc didnt go - and neither did M.
exP choice. they didnt go on his choice refusal to accept dc being picked up by M. it was clear to all i was happy for them to go with M.
DS (LDS/ASD) writes simple emails with help, his carer called me to show email from dad;
from ds xxxx@xxx
hi dad
i saw xxxx
i read a book.
what did you eat?
lots of love
ds
From: [email protected]>
To: dsxxxxxx yahoo.com>
Sent: Wed, xxxxx, 2011 23:16:42
Subject: Re: Re:
Dear ds
dad's birthday was the xxx of March.
dad invited ds dd1 and dd2 and he had his birthday celebration with lots of friends, but Mama didn't let ds dd1 and dd2 , to come. Mama needs some help
But the good news is that we will celebrate dad's birthday another time :-)) and we will eat sausages
How are you doing at school?
love
dad xxx