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Ex only ever takes his new family on holiday

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Jemma1111 · 01/04/2011 10:53

I'm wondering if this happens to other's, my ex and I split a few years ago and although he sees our kids regularly he has never asked to take them on holiday

He is now remarried and has 2 more children but considering he has a villa in Spain which he goes to atleast 4 times a year with his wife and other kids I'm p'd off to see how my 2 are left out

As they are getting older they are becoming more aware of what he doesn't do for them, I have asked if he would consider taking them away too occasionally but he always comes up with some excuse, i.e kids are at school or he can't manage 4 children altogether etc.

I know I can't make him include our too as much as his new family, so basically I just wanted to see if other people have an arsehole of an ex who seems to forget they have other children too to think about and who only ever seem to have the good times with the children they live with?

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ineedagoodsolicitor · 01/04/2011 14:36

Could you ask to have the loan of his villa for a cheap holiday ?

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Jemma1111 · 01/04/2011 16:07

No he wouldn't allow that and I don't think his wife would want us to !

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ivykaty44 · 01/04/2011 16:09

concentrate on what you do with your dc and have holidays and make memories together - don't worry about what fuckity wick ex is doing or not doing.

yes there are other ex's that take dc on hols, there are ex's that don't take their first family dc on hols and yet take their new family dc and there are fathers that want to take their dc but can't for reasons unknown - I know a few of each.

But don't worry about that concentrate on you and yours

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Jemma1111 · 01/04/2011 16:18

Thanks for that, I like your description of my ex !!

Yes I do take my kids away when I can its just that I feel sorry for them when twatto makes them feel like his other kids are favoured

I know one day though my kids will remember who did what for them

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WillIEverBeASizeTen · 01/04/2011 17:17

Jemma I am horrified that you think your kids can't be just as involved as his with his new wife! They are ALL his children, shame on that man AND his new wife!! Lucky you for getting rid. I personally wouldn't lower myself to ask for a loan of his villa. Let him stick it right up his arse!!

You and your kids are far worthy of more than this absolute **cker. Kick him very firmly to the kerb.

Yes and I have an arsehole ex with a new child, however, my kids are involved but just occasionally they aren't and then I get the RAVING hump and boy does he know it!!

What goes around comes around...

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Jemma1111 · 01/04/2011 22:00

I agree with you willieverbeasizeten, my ex is an absolute schmuck for making my kids feel second best and he should be ashamed of himself, but at the end of the day I suppose it's pointless trying to get a dickhead to be fair

And I do thank my lucky stars that I'm no longer with him!

Like you I believe in karma

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AllDirections · 01/04/2011 23:55

My X does this too but even worse he will half promise my DDs that he will take them too and then won't. DD1 isn't at all bothered but he knows that he can upset DD2 and keep her hanging off his every word. She starting to get wise to it now but he's done it to her too many times.

We go on single parent holidays with singlewithkids and the DDs have a fab time. I hope they bore their dad with their holiday stories! :o

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