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ENFORCEMENT ORDER - PLEASE HELP!!

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rach19 · 01/04/2011 09:44

Hi, I really hope some one can help with some advice.

I will try and keep this brief.

A couple of months ago, my 5 year old child was not returned to me after contact with her father. I have full residency and he has contact.

When i contacted the police i was told that an allergation was made against her grandfather of a sexual nature. I knew this was complete mallicious rubbish!! I spent the next 48 hours talking with the services and finaly got my child back home with me on the undertsanding that there would be no contact with either of the grand parents while it was being investigated.

After three weeks and a taped police interview where an intermedetry attended, i was told that these allergations were not substantiated at all and that nothing had been disclosed and my child vcan be immediately re instated with the grand parents.

As the split with my ex is very nasty and this is just one in a long string of mallicious allergations against my family, i knew that the ex had made this up out of pure spite.

For my childs sake, i with held access till the investigation had been concluded.

I begged social services for their involvement to make sure that my ex could never, ever put my child in this position again.

A case conference took place and my child was put on the at risk register.

As the ex is now being monitered, i reinstated contact immediately. I had the reassurance from social services that my child will be protected.

The ex still will not drop the enforcement order even though there is now nothing to enforce as contact was immediately reinstated.

I have a letter from the police stating the nature of the allergation (it was nasty and stated sexual abuse) and the fact that there were no concerns after the interview.

Has any one been in this situation?

What could the possible out come be?

Am i going to get in to serious trouble even though i was trying to protect my child?

Any info would be great.

Thanks

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GypsyMoth · 01/04/2011 09:46

how much contact did he miss??

did he turn up to collect your child?

rach19 · 01/04/2011 09:51

He missed approx three weeks. Purely while all this was going on. His contact was Thursday 8am to 1pm Sunday 9am to 6pm and Monday 8am to 6pm.

I truley belive even now that he totally made this up to spite my parents.

He never turned up for contact as i text him to let him know.

I also tried to get him to meet me in a mutual area for drop off as i felt threatend and scared of his behaviour towards me. He refused.

My dad was always with me at drop off (as stated by the court) and due to me having to sign an agreement my father could not be present.

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SpringchickenGoldBrass · 01/04/2011 22:45

I would advise a chat with WOmen's Aid about putting up barriers against this man. It might also be possible for your father to sue your XP for defamation (calling him a paedophile and accusing him of abusing your DD is a very serious allegation, and if it was done out of spite, it is actually a crime).

evolucy7 · 01/04/2011 22:54

No you won't be in trouble, an order cannot be enforced that is actually taking place anyway. You will probably get a 'talking to' saying that 'children should have contact with their father etc'. You had well documented reasons for stopping contact for a short time, have you spoken to a solicitor, has he actually applied to the court to enforce the order?

mamas12 · 02/04/2011 13:34

phone womens aid and you will have all the support and answers you need.

rach19 · 04/04/2011 11:32

Thanks for all the information and support. Very much appreciated. I am in court tomorrow with this. I have spoken to the police but they dont want to get involved any further. I have a solicitor that will be with me tomorrow. Just still very worried as the ex lies and cheats and for some reason, i just feel that he will be belived over and above me. Its a total nightmare. I just wish he would leave my family alone for the sake of my child!!!

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