advice required

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Just had to ask for a bit of advice. I worry sometimes that my little boy isnt mixing outside of school with anyone of his own age. He seems very happy to just send time with me but is this normal and what can i be doing to help? I work full time and have said he can ask people round at weekends but this doesnt seem to happen? Am I worrying over nothing and will this just happen as he gets older? I dont really get involved with any of the parents as I work and only engage with them when I do the school run or take him to one of his mates parties .

How old is he? :)

Hes seven and a very confident little boy but I dont want him to be like I was when I was that age as my step dad never let anyone stay and we were brought up on a farm so it was bit isolated. He does got to a music class on a saturday morning.

He's quite little yet then. I might be wrong as DS is younger, but at that age I'd imagine most playdates are arranged between parents more than children? So perhaps it's worth chatting to one of the parents of the children he plays with in the playground or at music group, if you don't do the school pickups, saying "Would X like to come for lunch one Saturday?"

It's good that you encourage him to ask friends home, but I'm thinking perhaps he just doesn't think about it when he's at school as they are having so much fun playing it just doesn't cross his mind. Or maybe he does ask but his friend forgets to ask his mum. Or maybe he doesn't really know how to ask.

Thats put my mind at rest a bit as I am a bit of a worrier.

he is only seven too young to be organising this.
ask who his friend is at school and send in a little note to teacher to pass on to the parent inviting for a ply date .

or have a little party and invite several of his friends

Definatly agree with the above, my eldest (8 now) was the same a couple of years ago and all the way through growing up, he was a bit of a 'loner' at nursery and school. Even when he was around other kids his age he still wanted to do his own thing.

However I persisted with finding excuses to put on a little get together with other parents in the area, and slowly but surely he interacted with the other little one more and more.

Now i can't get him away from his friends, they are forever coming round and i am always picking him up from his friends houses etc bit annoying really lol....

I know now you feel helpless but its all part of growing up for them, it will eventually all fall into place.

Good luck. :)

Thank you very much of all the feedback on tbis. Very much appreciated. Im sure it will all fall into place