Any lone parents living in Eire

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That could help me with a few questions about access, guardianship etc regarding my soon to be born baby?

Thanks Vx

Bump.

Hiya, Im only recently separated and not gone the official route, but am living in Eire so if you want to ask, fire away and I'll do my best.

I'm in Ireland. What do you want to know!?

Are you married to baby's father?

Morning all, sorry for the delay I couldn't get onto the net yesterday :-(
I'm not married to the father.
I'm due in Aug with 1st child.
I'm moving to Ireland soon and will deliver my baby there.
What rights can this moron get should he file for custody? Please tell me the rights are different from the ones we give in the UK ( I don?t want him having parential rights as he is a control freak)
Without going into the full story, He walked out on me months ago. Now he is trying to come across as the caring father to be. Can anyone advise me what the courts are like and what I am to expect when I?m taken to court?

Please don?t quote me as I may need to delete later. Thank you x

Hi, Instructions is totally right. Over here the father can apply through the courts for access but has no automatic entitlement. Even if successful its very rarely co-parenting - generally agreed amount of access.

Our social welfare department is here >> www.welfare.ie/EN/Pages/default.aspx

and the citizens information is here >> www.citizensinformation.ie/en/

They will give you exact details of your rights from both the state and your ex.

HTH

Thanks Double. Is it worth having his name on the cert then? This man is causing me untold amount of stress all with demands which if course are all to benefit him.

Legally speaking here what's the chance of him getting joint anything if he takes me to court? I'm reading different things online so I'd like to make sure what is correct.

Thanks x

Thank you Mom. I have no issues with him seeing the child.He would have to come to Eire to see him/her. I'd not give him permission to take the baby out of the country as I couldn't guarantee he won't snatch the child. My only issues is him having parential rights where he would have a say on schools etc. I don't wish him to have a say in any of that due to his controlling and abusive nature. In the Uk he gets parential rights.

Instructions, thanks for your help. I have loads to think on :-) x

Don't have the father's name but on the birth cert then, because if you can't be certain that he won't snatch the baby and take the baby out of Ireland, then by putting the father's name on the bc, you are giving him an incentive to 'snatch' the child as he would have more rights if he takes the child to the UK. There he could apply to the UK courts for residency or..... parental rights (which would be moot if living in different countries, but still).

If he is ALREADY trying to control you and the baby isn't even born yet then I would leave the name off the bc. It can be added later if he's earned that privilege, but it can not be taken off.

Valium, Thanks I agree with that. I'm goin to PM if that ok?