Lost the plot again

[crazymoon]

Can't manage to keep on top of things...got so annoyed with DS1 (12) when he needed help to print off homework that should have been in last week (he'd lost the worksheet) and ended up ranting and banging things. Just wanted some time alone at 9:30 pm to have a bath. DS3 is 2 and up early so ready for time out by now not homework stress which should have been done ages ago. But hate the fact that i got so wound up and angry with him, not the first time either.

It's so easy to fly off the handle when everything is lumbered onto your shoulders. Sorry you had a crap day .

TBH I hope you're in bed now and have a better day tomorrow.

My DS2 (13) is exactly the same, and i too have ranted many times when he informs me of stuff he needs, i.e when i'm knackered..
I don't even have a small child - so don't be so hard on yourself about getting angry!

Tomorrow is another day, explain why it's too much to do at that time of night, and agree an earlier time if poss.. ours' is straight after i've done the evenings' washing up..I admit i have to 'remind' him everyday, but once it's done i can relax

Really, don't fret, they need to start to learn a bit about 'time management' and responsibility now,or we're in for hell come the GCSE years!

Crazymoon - I have felt the same today :)

I don't wish to be a crabby tired mum though so really fight to recognise i'm being one and rein it in. Make a plan for things your DC should do and can do which makes your life easier. Independence is good but they need to know what is expected so they can work with you and feel proud

ooooh u are not alone...... ive had the police at my house yesterday ( short long DS 12 suspended from school last week for fighting other child parent reported it to police) despite that and the fact i have taken his bike( his most treasured possetion) and he is grounded and in serious trouble....he still needed reminding many times last night to do homework..........

tonight we are going to sit down and work out RULES together! that way he knows them if home work isnt done he will get red marks in school red marks = more days without bike... at this age he needs to know thats his actions = consequences!!!!

Harsh int it but im at end of my tether!!!

first time i've posted on here (often look for advice tho) came back down after my bath and cried after seeing replies - thank you! laptop battery then went flat so i thought i'd better go to bed too. really good to know others having same hard work. think we will work out rules tonight too (again!!) funny thing is we'd been for a walk earlier on last night and i'd thought how well we were getting on, then the fireworks began!!!

suppose we tend to focus too much on when things have gone wrong and forget to congratulate ourselves on all the hard work we do!! going to try and keep that attitude today AND KEEP CALM [WINK]

and now i know how you get the smilies etc good luck

Bloody hard work this 'being mum and dad rolled into one' lark isn't it !!?

Good luck to you as well Crazymoon