AIBU to not want to receive him at the airport?

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I normally post on Lone parents, as I have been separated from exh for almost 2yrs now. He left the country to go back home for a 5wk holiday, he only told me and dcs a couple of days before he was to go.

He's back today and I really don't want to go and receive him at the airport..:-(

The dc's are looking forward to seeing him and their presents, but for me the dread has started to set in. I am really NOT looking forward to all the stress that he causes when he's around.
Life was alot more peaceful without him.

He was (and still is) a very clever, manipulative man, he was emotionally and mentally abusive towards me and went onto abuse DD.

When I spoke to him a wk ago he asked me if I was going to get him from the airport and I said No. The Dc's wanted to go though.

So am I being Unreasonable?

why do you have to go if you are seperated?

He said he has been buying gifts for me aswell, apparently to try and make things better between us.

But I don't feel that any amount of money or gifts will undo all the pain and hurt he has caused.

Its gonna take alot more than that.

I'd not go and get him, and I'd also not accept any gifts from him. He's not your responsibility any more. x

if there is someone else who can take the DC then arrange that.
if not then he wont get a welcoming committee.

he is an adult. he can cope

You don't have to do what he wants you to do anymore.
Disengage, enable the dcs to see him and that is that.

Thanks for the replies...:-)

Haribo what I meant to say was that 'he seems to think that he can BUY me over with gifts'. Which wasn't the issue and the reason for the break-up, he refuses to look at the REAL ISSUE, and is trying to make me do the same.

But I refuse to do that as it means putting my Dd's safety and well-being in jeopardy. Aswell as my own.....

Having him live far away from us for the past 5 wks has actually helped me to have a feel of how things are without him being able to call round as and when he feels like it. And to be honest I prefer it. Life was soooo much less stressful. The kids I was able to cope with, it's just him.

tell him to call a taxi. He's still manipulating you. It's over, he should have no bearing in your life anymore. If he wants to see the kids he can do so within the arranged timetable of access you presumably have set up.