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First proper day out

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bringonthegoat · 19/03/2011 20:52

Had my first (of many to come!) proper day out alone with DD. We've done loads of little things on our own but this was a day out IFYKWIM.

Feel quite proud of myself that we had a nice day and I coped well. Loved sharing cake and hot chocolate but felt a bit odd just sat there with a toddler. Was also quite sad that I had noone to share the good bits with - like DD saying 'baa' at the sheep or her trying to climb in with the birds. Also felt envious of how easy it looked for the families out - especially when I was struggling with DD on reins, pram and a hot chocolate.

Being a LP feels like such a challenge sometimes.

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MavisEnderby · 19/03/2011 20:55

Aww I know the feeling.I have to say the first few trips out with the dcs after dps death were hard especially seeing all of the happy families and feeling .It does get better with time though and it sounds like you both had a LOVELY day.xxx

theresapotatoundermysink · 19/03/2011 20:59

I also find it difficult sometimes. During the week, not a problem. I go out with friends but also do stuff just me and DD and never feel self concious or lonely. But then at weekends I always do seeing all the other families together :(. Hope it gets easier soon.

Well done for getting out there and having a proper day out. I'm still building up to that.

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bringonthegoat · 19/03/2011 21:02

Mavis - We really did But it was surprisingly tiring - especially coming back to cook dinner/sort washing/do bedtime, etc.

My family is small (me, DD and my Dad - who's currently fallen out with me) and my friends are always busy at weekends. Am really starting to dread weekends!

I'm sure it will get easier, like all things. Especially as DD is great company already so can only get better

Sorry for your terrible loss x

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bringonthegoat · 19/03/2011 21:03

Theres - Same here - weekdays, no sweat. Weekends are yuck. There may always be some single dads though

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MavisEnderby · 19/03/2011 21:08

I'd kind of wondered about joining Gingerbread?Have any of you done this?(I am not thinking about a new relationship or anything like that but would love to meet some other single mums.)All of my mum friends are married or in partnerships

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bringonthegoat · 19/03/2011 21:13

I haven't heard of it - will google. Love the idea of single mum meets.

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Meglet · 19/03/2011 21:20

I signed up for gingerbread the other day, it's free. From what I have seen on their website they are also doing some good campaining on behalf of lone parents.

Days out are tricky. I have 2 pre-schoolers which currently prevents me from doing lots of things as they are bonkers. But I did take DS to london on my own last spring when he was 3.5, it was a pretty good day out TBH. I won't take them on holiday on my own yet, I go with my family to make it easier.

I am hoping it gets much more bearable once they are at school .

WillIEverBeASizeTen · 19/03/2011 23:55

Yep I agree,weekends, I dislike them too. My son is 13, rarely wants to do anything with me, won't go anywhere (unless it's his choice) to be looked after, all friends married/paired up, so on the whole weekends are pretty lonely. Even when he was younger it was still hard watching all the families out together sharing moments:( flippin hard!!!

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