Safety

[hdaze]

Hi everyone,

This is my first ever post, really hoping to get some advice from other lone parents who are possibly experiencing similar things.
My 5 year old son is telling me that his dad regularly leaves him in the car alone when he goes into the bank/supermarket etc. I told my ex that this is unacceptable to me however he just laughs in my face.
There was also an incident last year where my son says his dad left him alone in a tent when he was sleeping, my son was quite upset by this.
Am I overreacting? Really agitated about this and don't know how to cope with the anxiety when my boy is with his dad. There is no point in communicating with my ex, he just seizes the opportunity to sneer at me.
Thanks for listening! Hdaze

depends - if he in car for five minutes while dad gets money then parents do that all the time.

if 40 minutes in supermakret - he should take him with. if five minutes quick dash in - well debateable but not criminal offence...

presumably with the tent thing dad was nearby?

you do have to cope with the anxiety - you cant b there and have to let go - does he generally come back happy, fed, clean?

Yes I think he was nearby when the tent thing happened.

I realise I worry too much but I find it difficult to shake the feeling that my ex is very lax with regards my sons safety, he certainly was for his first 3 years whilst we were together.

I suppose there is no easy way to deal with single parent anxiety which, for me, is pretty constant!

you have to or it will destroy you, ask gp tor efer you for the six weeks of nhs counselling some cbt type approach

I think it is totally unacceptable. I would never leave my DS in the car unless i could see the car clearly petrol station etc. Hope you get this sorted.

but maybe he can see the car clearly - maybe he is stopping to get money from ATm not going inside a bank to queue... you need the facts and you cant rely on a five year old with no concept of time etc.

She said clearly in her op that he goes IN to the supermarket bank etc.

she said the five year old is saying this - you cant rely on everythig a five year old tells you

But she also said this to her ex and he didnt deny it so i would assume thats him saying yes this does happen and its not a big deal.