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Father's Day

15 replies

Mummalish · 13/03/2011 07:56

Just interested what other single mum's do for their ex's for Fathers Day?

A tough one if things are not amicable, what to do?

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Hazeleyedbaby · 13/03/2011 08:40

I send him a card from my DS as he is only 16 months - we are on civil terms.

BellsaRinging · 13/03/2011 08:44

Don't have an ex (ds1's father passed away) but I would wait and see if you have anything for mother's day, which is first. If he's taken the time to do something for you with dc then it would be nice to reciprocate. Alternatively, if they are of school age they will usually do something there, which should def be passed on.

gillybean2 · 13/03/2011 09:06

Ds sends a cards to both his grandpas.
His father isn't a dad to him, and walked away while I was pregnant, so no way I'd waste time sending him anything.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 13/03/2011 13:45

nothing unless the dcs choose to make a card

belledechocchipcookie · 13/03/2011 13:51

nothing. It takes time and effort to be a true father.

Bringonthegoat · 13/03/2011 14:01

I will have a small gift & card ready for DD to give when she sees him closest to the day. I would also wish him a happy father's day, probably by text. If XP/H was a feckless father I wouldn't bother. If things weren't amicable because of our adult relationship issues I would still send a card/gift.

JohnBovi · 13/03/2011 20:34

Even though he didn't bother to get me anything from dd for Christmas, or for my birthday, and things aren't exactly harmonious, I shall still get dd to choose him a card and present. And that's for her sake, not for his.

PaigeTurner · 13/03/2011 20:58

DS's dad has already said he doesn't want anything from DS (ie me) until he's old enough to pay for it out of his paper round money. I took that as "don't expect anything from me for mother's day".

zest01 · 13/03/2011 21:37

Regardless of what I did/didn't get on mothers day, I would always get DC's to make a card and gift - it's called not stooping to someone elses level and it's for the kids sake.

I don't bother now as he has a new partner who said she would feel more comfortable if she did something with them for him - fine by me!

I always offer to let him have them on the day as well and they do something for DH (their step Dad) the day before or after.

Just seems the right thing to do really, for them.

boxingHelena · 13/03/2011 22:04

we will take a day off and turn it into mum and dc day

dougaldo · 14/03/2011 11:38

After what happened at xmas I will get the dc's to write a card and if they want to spend their pocket money on a present I'll take them. But I'm not expecting anything from him on Mother's day

bubbles1510 · 15/03/2011 16:26

Nothing.

I have always done something for occasions like this and birthdays and christmas etc, but have never yet recieved anything back.

So yes I am stooping to his level, he has family and a gf to do it if they feel it appropriate

xxx

PaigeTurner · 15/03/2011 17:07

Zest my DS is 12 weeks old so won't be making cards for a while. His dad has chosen to go on holiday on father's day as well, so he's not that arsed I presume.

KnickersOnOnesHead · 15/03/2011 17:31

I'll be sending a card with the dc's on the closest day they visit.

mrsravelstein · 15/03/2011 17:34

even with things have been awful with exh, i've always sorted ds1 out with a card to give him (though memorably the first mothers day after we split up, he wrote 'fuck you' in the card he gave ds1 to give me... ah how we laughed...)

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