Hi there,
My husband and I are soon to split up. This time I mean it when I say our relationship has to end. Our rows have been going on for three years, probably longer...
We have 3 kids. My youngest is 20 months. I work 4 days a week.
Basically, I have felt for a long time that DH has very little respect for what I do, he is manipulative, puts me down, critisizes and has destroyed my confidence through his use of words. Over the years he has told me that I moan constantly and have been made to feel that whenever I have had a bad day or the kids are stressing me out that it is somehow my fault because I 'can't relax, always shouting, always tired....' etc.
I know that I am a fairly positive person. I know that if things need doing then I do them and if things need changing then I change them. I don't sit around moaning about things.
When our third child was born I got up with him every morning (and still do) and got the other two ready and off to school. Sometimes these morning could get stressful. He would lie in bed and then if I raised my voice at the kids tell me that I was 'always shouting' and that looing after the kids isn't that hard! This is a tiny example of how it has been over the years. Added to this he would sleep in the spare room every night for a year so that he could get his sleep whilst I was up with baby 3 every night. And he had the cheek to say these things!
Anyway, I could go on about it all but won't. I just need to know what your experiences of single motherhood is like? Is there light at the end of the tunnel? When he is gone I look forward to some peace, less tension around him, better sleep (he drinks a lot every night and snores, keeping me awake. He says that it is my fault because I am a light sleeper!) I look forward to being able to BE WHO I AM without worrying about being criticised!