I'm biting my tongue, but...

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...it's not easy.

My ex (we've been separated for about 14 months) seems to have been going through partners at a fair rate. For example, I gave up my Christmas day with our kids because my ex would have spent the day alone and I wouldn't wish that on anyone, only for them to suddenly announce that there was a new partner who was staying over and would be spending Christmas with my kids. They broke up a few weeks later.

Anyway, fast forward to now. The kids were staying with my ex this weekend just gone. I get an email from my ex just before the kids come back telling me that there's another new partner and that this partner "popped in during the weekend, and met the kids".

When the kids came home, I got the full story. This partner had actually stayed for two nights over the weekend (so much for 'popping in'), and the kids had no idea that this was going to happen. They had also never met this person before.

The kids were also sad that the last partner wasn't on the scene any more.

I have no problem with my partner meeting other people (although I do pity these other people... heh), and I'm pleased (in a way) that I'm being told when there are new people in the kids' lives.

However, I do think that springing a new partner of no more than a week or two on the kids for a full weekend visit with no warning kinda stinks.

Or am I being too sensitive?

Personally I think people should wait to introduce partners, but sadly you don't get to choose as he is their father and can introduce them tonwhoever he wants.

I think it's also hard on the kids because they don't get to spend time alone with their Dad. If the latest partner's always around,the kids might end up feeling excluded.

Its not great for your kids. But unfortuntley there isnt much you can do about it. They will just grow up thinking their dad is a bit of a knob

This is terrible, children really need a secure and stable environment and continually introducing new partners goes against that entirely . I didn't introduce DP to my children until we'd been together for a year. Personally I think it's more damaging than the so-called risk of not being able to see their father, he obviously has no idea of the emotional impact it has on the children.

It's gob-smacking isn't it? My ex does the same. She can't survive on her own for more than five minutes without a new victim DP on the scene. And, not only does she introduce them to our children within days of meeting them, she moves them in with her too so they're always around when our DCs are supposed to be spending quality time with her

Sadly, there's bugger-all you can really do about it. It's not good but I don't see it as something serious enough that a court would agree it's worth stopping contact over.