DS always comes back from Dads and is grumpy towards me.

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Its so dam hard being a single parent and the prime carer.
The kids are fed up with you , take you for granted, are rude to you !
But at Dads they seem to be polite, happy happy, and never grumpy or rude. Dad is "Father Xmas" and tells me DS is having a ball ! True or False I dont know.

Picked up DS (10yrs) from school today and didnt even get a "Hello". I asked eventually after he had been rude a few times if he was like that cos he didnt want to come back home to me, and would rather stay at his Dads.

He said yes.

The whole situation makes me so dam depressed sometimes.

Anyone else?

I would not ask a question providing the answer, it is putting words into his mouth and in his mind. Also you make it easier for him to just say yes than elaborate on why he is in a grumpy mood

DH's son lives with us. he is grumpy when he comes back from his mum's (on the rare occasion he goes there).
It's just a period of readjustment each time (he only goes for a few hours as she refuses to have him overnight).

Dont take it personally. You are the adult and should be supportive of him spending time with both parents - by saying what you did you are almost setting yourself up against ex. Be kind and hope that he has a great time there.

Your words are right i guess both of you. I know why he is grumpy, and shouldnt hav put words in to his mouth. He is not very good at articulating how he is feeling. (Typical male boy ) so i always have to help him. Guess I was setting myself up though.

He is fine today and last night. You are right ladydeedly, its a time of readjustment.

TBH i wish he didnt go to Dads on a Tuesday night for Scouts really, it unsettles him mid week.
He is off to dads again on Saturday early for football which he really loves....so i guess that the main thing.....He loves going.

My DS always came back from his Dad's rude and grumpy. He will eventually grow out of it - not that it helps you. It used to drive me insane....