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[Krepsly]

Hi, I'm a new addition to the lone parents forum For me it's a happy occassion although I know for some it isn't.

My ex was extremely controlling, lacked all ability to communicate and lied constantly about every little thing. It was awful. I've looked forward to this for so many months and now I'm here I'm loving every minute of it. He moved out on saturday and I've spent my evenings since sprawled across the sofa watching programs he hated [grated] sprawled across my big double bed playing on the laptop (which he would have hated!!), I'm cooking the stuff I want to cook (he would never have allowed it! I wasn't allowed to cook very often ) and basically I just feel like a child that's been given free reign to do as they please

Ok I'm skint and my savings have disapeared into a cloud of smoke but I can build them back up. Its all material and can/will be replaced. At the moment I'm just enjoying my new found freedom!

Thanks for listening x

Welcome! Have fun being yourself at last.

hello:)

oh i remember the first few days well!!

for me it was the moving round of the furniture....how i wanted it....without him kicking off! bliss

welcome

Welcome My becoming single was mainly a happy time too. I relished painting my house in lovely colours my ex wouldn't have allowed, pleasing just me and DS (not that miserable, controlling git), and getting a dog.

Your finances will settle again eventually and like you say, they are nothing in comparison to your happiness. In my opinion and experience, happy mum = happy children.

It's a wonderful feeling, isn't it? :) I remember just loving the silence. Not having to have the TV on. And then, being able to watch what I wanted!

And yes, cooking! I made a big bacon and marmite omelette on one of the first nights, because it was something I'd concocted with another ex, and XP would have scoffed if I'd made it and gone on and on about how weird it was.

Welcome back to yourself

Glad you are feeling so positive about your Ex leaving..

I hope it goes from good to even better. Sounds like you did the right thing and leave him.
I love it when my DP is away in the week working cos I have the big bed all to myself and he doesnt wake me 3x every night sniffing.

wow, good for you! enjoy. I hope you will get support (if/when you need it) on here. Here's toasting the next chapter of your life!