What is it called when...?

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Allalone0 · 04/03/2011 23:35

Your ex seems to be moving on with other people, and doesnt want you to find out.

Yet keeps trying his hardest to keep tabs on you and expresses his dissapproval of you doing anything along those lines.

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GypsyMoth · 04/03/2011 23:38

controlling from a distance??
double standards

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Allalone0 · 04/03/2011 23:41

Thanks im feeling really confused and trying to work it out.

I was wondering if it meant he 'loved me', but then he wouldn't be seeing others would he?

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hairylights · 05/03/2011 10:33

Controlling behaviour and posessiveness. You are well rid.

theresapotatoundermysink · 05/03/2011 10:35

No I'm afraid he wouldn't be seeing other people if he loved you.

My ex keeps commenting on my relationship with a few of my male friends, saying we're dating he knows we are etc. etc. Getting jealous and making something out of nothing....yet he's the one who cheated on me . Fucking men.

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 05/03/2011 10:36

'Being a knob.' Refuse to engage with him about anything other than access/finance. You have every right to date and have sex, you are single.

caramelwaffle · 05/03/2011 14:31

Double standards.

Keeping his options wide open

A knobber

notsohotchic · 05/03/2011 16:06

This is ringing bells. Ugh. My ex was at it with a few women including his convenient neighbour, a couple of months after he moved out. But he continued to lament the demise of our relationship, kept asking me out on 'dates' and sneaked into the house to count the condoms in the bedside drawer and read my diary... LOL when he couldn't contain his horror at finding 5 condoms gone. Apparently I needed to justify that more than he needed to justify the spying!

WELL RID!!!

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Allalone0 · 05/03/2011 23:32

Thanks everyone, Im glad I ran it past you guys.

I was struggling and becoming confused, trying to work out exactly what is going on in regards to how he is treating me.
I now feel abit clearer, (not completely, but clearer than before)

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manticlimactic · 06/03/2011 02:02

My ex never told me when he was seeing someone. He had to with the new one as she was moving in as she was 6 weeks from giving birth.

She's never there if I call to collect DD. I often wonder if he's told her I'm a right nutter and not as pretty as she is. Because he's certainly not trying to spare my feelings as we've been split for 12 years.

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