so, after four months since exP attacked DD2(when he was having MH episode) dd2 finally had chat with him on skype sunday he is v jolly (now on meds) so she thinking would like to see him - and he invites her to his birthday today. she decides yes she will go to his birthday party as other people will be there including his friend M and her daughters will be there - but she tells me is on condition his Friend M picks her up from our place to go there.
i call M she agrees to come pick up dd2
exP texts - is cross - how dare i talk directly and arrange things to HIS friend! "she is my friend not yours and you dont call her"
I am to take them to his door. "you bring them here not M she is not going to go pick them up" (it is three minutesd walk away...)
i say no it is better M comes to our place and walks with dd2 to his to avoid any tension.
short story he gets more and more irate, "you will bring them, M will not be coming to pick them up" i keep repeating "we will wait tomorrow for M to come and pick herup and take to yours"
M eventually calls me and i explain further why it is better she comes picks up dd2 takes her there, that dd2 is nervous but wants to go and the short walk with her and her daughters will help her feel excited and safe. that exP is quite agressive with me in text messages and i dont feel comfortable going even to his door. that me going there woud cause tension. she agrees.
but says exP has decided that i have to take them there and she is not allowed to pick them up. that she has only agreed to come to a mid week party to help him out and help make sure dd2 feels safe. and help him see his children on his birthday.
i say fine - his choice.
she then says, oh and he says either all dc come or none.
i say fine - i am not going to force dd1 to come. she is adamant she doesnt want to.
dd2 -despiute everything - is happy to come under the conditions that you come pick her up. she says "i understand and i agree, but you exP says...bla bla bla "
i say look, his choice.
ultimately i have a court order which specifies "supervised contact" and for the adult to "collect the children from my house". i am sticking to that given what happened in october. she says "i know i know and i am happy to come pick them up, but your exP says now all DC come or none and .....b;a bla bla "
i say - we will wait for you tomorrow.
if you dont come , dd2 doesnt go. end of...
then get text on my phone to the children from exP
"i am sorry your mother wont bring you to my house for my birthday. but dont worry things will change and soon you will be seeing daddy much more".
really dont know what he planning...
anyway - await tonite's adventure - am sticking to M comes to pick up DD2 or she doesnt go...
creepy or what?