Anyone let XP do overnight visits in your house?

[MonkeyandParrot]

My DDs are 1 and 2 and I am desperate for XP to start having them overnight partially so I can have a break but mostly to start increasing the time they spend with Dad (he likes doing the fun side of parenthood and just wants to see them 2 days a month and the occasional holiday but I've said that to take them away for a holiday he first needs to be having them for just one night on a regular basis and then building up - he wants to take them away for a week at Easter despite never having put either of them to bed yet alone doing night parenting!) His latest excuse is that his flatmate doesn't want the kids in his flat so I have offered the use of my house. In the one in a million chance that he doesn't come back with yet another excuse, has anyone done this? And how do you make it easy? I only have two bedrooms for example so XP would be sleeping in my room which for some reason I'm quite uncomfortable about - is this just me?

i think he should move flat first to a place where ha can have his dc himself.

otherwise he is taking advantage of you and will never ave to take that step -also if he wants them to go holiday with him they need to be used to staying with him elsewhere - not in your house.

I'm currently going through a break up with my XP, during which I stay over at hers one night during the week and one at the weekend until I sort out suitable place of my own.

It's not easy I can tell you, and we get on reasonably well. I sleep in the front room ( I don't think your ex sleeping in your room is a great idea.)

The best suggestion I can give you is to make a rule not to discuss any contentious issues during this time when he's at yours, after your children have gone to bed, certainly not before they've gone to bed !

Yes me all the time, my kids prefer to stay in their own house and they can play with their friends etc. If i have a night out i stay at my friends. Works fine but its took 3 years to get to this stage of not fighting. I prefer knowing the kids are in my house, happy with plenty of shoppin .