Monied Feckliss Fathers

[sosis]

Total newbie. I'm not going onto to a rant about what they do or don't play, but I want to ask whether anyone out there is dealing with the overseas XH. Sorry don't have the lingo.

I want in essense to try to change the law so these fellas have a limited access to their children. Why should they have the lifestyle whilst we have a life and access when they are in town.

Sosis,

Not all fathers move overseas through choice. Some are forced there through their work or other reasons. I live overseas with my exh because he is a crown employee. He supports his dc financially and is desparate to spend time with his dc (11) but we simply cannot afford to fly his dc out to us in every school holiday and currently we are unable to return to the UK due to his work commitments.

I think it would be very unfair for a law to be passed limiting fathers (or mothers) access just because they choose (or have to) live abroad.

My exh lives in UK. He has "limited access" because he chooses to. If he was not that way inclined I would be encouraging him to have a relationship with our dc because I do strongly believe that children should be given the freedom to make their own mind up about contact when old enough, and they will only do that by having some form of regular contact (unless of course the ex is abusive to the dc).

When I was a LP (which I was for 7 years) I roped in babysitters if I wanted to go out, I did not rely on my exp because even though he was in the country he was not particularly reliable. This has never changed, so now our dc together has started to see this and is now feeling let down by his father. Of course not everyone has that option. I will say this though, a child is for life. We all chose to have these children and whilst they might have one not so great parent they have one other that obviously loves them and cares for them.

Me xx

It's a sick proposal. Fathers have rights to see their children.

sosis I kinda understand how you feel hun!
when the X moved abroad to escape supporting dc and then wanting to see dc for birthday and Xmas ONLY for a few hours. I tried to push regular contact but X ran as only wanted to have minimum contact to be hailed a fantastic father to his friends and family.