scared!

[refmum]

I am a fairly new LP,we separated at New year.

I have found a place for me and my 4 sons to rent and we are moving in 2 and a half weeks time.

I am so relieved to have found somewhere,it's in the same town and means my boys can stay at the same schools.

I'm just really scared now...excited too,looking forwards to settling in and making the place nice and homely but i'm worried about doing it all on my own,i guess it's natural to feel aprehensive,a big step etc....

Can you tell me how it went for you? did it go ok? how did your children take it? My youngest son is asking lots of questions (he's 4),can my bed come with us etc!..i've told him all his things will come to the new house

We have had to re-home 1 dog and our cat over the last 6 weeks,it's been very for us all.

Hoping our lives are about to change for the better.

I am sure that as soon as you are settle in the new house the excitement and relief will take over the worries, and yes it is only natural
Follow a check list for removal (you find them on line too) and make sure you allow enough time and sort out as much as you can this end. It is a good chance to rid off unwanted goods and stuff...
My son asked the very same question about his room so as long as they have all their belongings it doesnt really matter to them where they live, ime it takes very little time to get used to it, in fact no time at all!

Thanks,i have been de-cluttering so that i only take what we really want/need,nice fresh start

We moved almost a year ago, me and two DDs to a house that I bought while exH stayed in considerably larger marital home by himself along with all 'our' furniture and belongings. It sounds unfair, but the divorce is going through and financially things will get sorted out.

Anyway, the girls were more excited than anxious or upset. They helped assemble the flat pack furniture and happily sat on the floor eating pizza the first night while we had no fridge or furniture apart from sofas and I wasn't going to let them sit there to eat pizza! My eldest is at boarding school so it took her longer to get used to it, she wasn't here much at all until the summer holidays started. We are only 2.5 miles away from ex so familiar with the area and stayed in the same schools. It was difficult for them in that they were leaving the only home they had ever known to come here, and also their beds etc stayed where they were. I didn't want 'his' stuff in my house and was happy to get new things so I'm not surrounded by stuff that reminds me of him.

The girls say that they live in both houses now, although they spend 5 nights a week here so this is their registered address for school, doctors etc.

I have no regrets at all. I love my little house and I'm very happy here with my girls. Definitely better than staying in the marital home full of mostly unhappy memories (along with vast council tax and heating bills!)

Good luck to you and your boys in your new home. I'm sure they will manage just fine and you'll all be very happy there.

Thankyou for sharing your experience (which,by the way sounds a very positive one!)

I am hoping for the same,for it to go smoothly and the boys to settle in and be happy...fingers crossed.

It'll be fine. Anything new/different can seem scary but you'll soon find it isn't.

And with 4ds to look after I'm not sure you'll have time to be scared once you're settled!

Can't help you with your other questions as I've always been on my own since finding out I was pregnant. DS hasn't known anything else.

But good luck with your new home