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I knew he was a liar, but it seems he's mad, too

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maledetta · 14/02/2011 16:32

Starting two threads in one day?! You are completely right in thinking it's a quiet day at the workshop...However. I've just had a phone call that's left me a bit shaken.

The CSA just called. I contacted them a week ago about DS's father, hoping to get some money out of him. Amazingly, quickly, they got on the case, and contacted him today.

Now, for most of the time DS has been alive his father has disputed paternity. The fact that he has no grounds for suspicion whatsoever, and that DS is his spitting image, have been no bar to his lies.

However, we did go together to register the birth and out him on the BC when DS was born- because he asked to be on the BC!

Now, it seems, he's telling the CSA he's not on the BC. Because that can't be checked, obviously. (hmm) .

Thing is, I'm pretty rattled, because the only conclusion I can come to now is that this man is not only immoral, not only a liar, emotionally abusive and totally uncaring about his tiny son, but also completely mad. I am now worried about what else he could be capable of doing.

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amberleaf · 14/02/2011 16:41

Can you send them a copy of the birth cert?

It actually doesnt matter if hes on it or not as regards a csa claim, he can dispute paternity and they will ask him to come for a dna test which he will be charged for if paternity is established.

hes just stalling by the sounds of it.

maledetta · 14/02/2011 16:45

I offered...the chap at the CSA said it wasn't necessary yet. By the tone of his voice, he obviously thinks the man is a prime twunt too.

I know about the DNA test; he has to do it privately because he's on the BC, but they've sent him a list of,er, testers.

I'm just stunned that he'd tell a lie that's so stupidly easy to disprove.

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amberleaf · 14/02/2011 16:56

ok well it really does sound like stalling tactics tbh.

I assume from your first post that relations between the two of you are not good and the csa route is your only choice? i mean you cant come to a mutual agreement?

if thats the case hes just gonna have to swallow it.

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