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Is there anyone on here i have anything in common with.

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fifi25 · 06/02/2011 00:01

I am starting this thread to see if I can find anyone i have anything in common with on mumsnet.

My kids dont got to private school, i dont shop at M&S or Debenhams and havent got a clue what some people are talking about on here.

I love my little council house with only 6 rooms in total and i own a Staffie.

I sometimes want a little rant about the kids but when i do i get book recomendations. I haven got time to read a book Hmm

If i dont get any replies im off Smile

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GypsyMoth · 06/02/2011 00:03

i'm a lone parent too...HA house....6 rooms not including hall/landing......gp's and rabbits,but we both have pets!!Grin

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fifi25 · 06/02/2011 00:08

I think ive been on the wrong threads tbh. I thought i would give it ago got a bit hooked and now its getting on my nerves Smile

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GypsyMoth · 06/02/2011 00:09

which threads do you usually hang out on??

i dont think i have alot in common with the MNers i'm more friendly with.

mady12 · 06/02/2011 00:14

i know how you feel. and we all need to rant about every thig now and again to keep us all saine. i to am a lone parent with 2 children and its nice to be able to talk to people who have the same exsperiance.

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fifi25 · 06/02/2011 00:14

Just been reading through them really and if i had anything to say i would post. Didnt realise this one was here til now.

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pickgo · 06/02/2011 00:28

One thing I've got in common with you is my little council house which I also love.

It's funny isn't it, but my home feels so much more cosy now it's just me and DC and I've noticed a few other lps say similar things.

Anyone else have this... well 'cosy' feeling about their homes now they're single?

lemonsquish · 06/02/2011 00:28

Hi Fifi, I feel a bit out of my depth too sometimes, but I mostly just lurk and only post if there's something I feel strongly about.

Think this section's not too bad, but some are quite harsh!

Shimmerysilverglitter · 06/02/2011 09:02

HA flat here also. Six rooms including hall. I love it, feel safe here. Have a dog also.

TheProvincialLady · 06/02/2011 09:16

Do you only have something in common with people who live in 6 roomed houses who don't shop at M&SConfused?

There are all sorts of people on MN, which is what makes it interesting. People with huge houses and incomes, people who have virtually nothing, and everything in between. If you avoid the 'how big is your house' and 'where do you shop' type threads and go more for parenting advice and news chat, for example, you wouldn't necessarily ever find out whether poster X is like you or not.

BTW if you have time to MN, it's not an unreasonable assumption to make that you would have time to read a book.

Glamour · 06/02/2011 09:23

ha! i also have a little council house,2 bed (which i love), i havent and will never read a self help book! Grin, and dont feel the need to see a shrink, i only shop in debenhams when theres a sale on, otherwise its the old pri-marni and new look! haha! and my Little boy will be going to the same primary and secondary school i went to, so far from private its unreal ha! although fantastic schools!

but i havent got a dog! ha

but at the end of the day were all on this forum for the same reason, and what we do have in common is im sure were all fantastic parents Smile, we dont have to be middle class to be great mums!

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fifi25 · 06/02/2011 11:00

Here we go having a rant and the provincial lady pisses all over it?? I pointed out in my post ive obviously been on the wrong threads. Ive only been on for 4 a week and i am quite shocked tbh at some of the stuff ive read. People getting ripped to bits, people slagging kids who are obviously less fortunate than theres, i could go on and on, really its quite vicious.

If my spelling or grammers wrong i couldnt give a toss before it gets pointed out.

Yes i probably do have more in common with woman who dont shop at m&s and live in 6 roomed houses.

I can watch the kids whilst having a browse on here, i dont think i could really absorb a full self help book whilst watching the kids.

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purepurple · 06/02/2011 11:09

fifi, if you feel that you don't fit in here, then why not seek out other forums where you feel more comfortable?
you are not going to make any friends here by pointing out people's faults
I have been on mumsnet for a few years and have seen many, many supportive threads. I have seen lots of people get flamed too. I mostly come on here because it's so entertaining, but when I have needed help or support, it has been given.
FWIW, my kids don't go to private school and I never shop in M & S or Debenhams, I don't wear Boden and have never read a baby book in my life. I don't have a horse, a nanny, or keep chickens. Doesn't mean I don't fit in.

TheProvincialLady · 06/02/2011 11:11

OK, rant away. No piss intended. Couldn't care less about your grammar, I just thought you might be interested to learn that there are all sorts on here.

I also live in a 6 roomed house but I'm not chippy about it.

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fifi25 · 06/02/2011 11:22

Yes purepurple i think your right. I find myself getting drawn into it tbh so i am probably not suited to this site. Ive been on quite alot over the last week and now the kids are asking me why im always on the computer which is diturbing. If you want a chat you seem to have to go on the busier threads but then its not really a chat someone just ends up getting the piss ripped out of them

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purepurple · 06/02/2011 11:38

Certain posters are well known for being rude. I think of them as the school bully and just ignore them. They don't have real friends, just hangers-on, who feed the bullies egos. It's all very sad, really. We should feel sorry for them, they attempt to make themselves feel better about their sad, litttle lives by belittling strangers on the internet. It must male them feel very important.

GypsyMoth · 06/02/2011 11:49

You can't make true friends here anyway.

How did you find mumsnet anyway fifi? Alot of new people lately here, not all with good intentions. The Riven thing brought alot of attention. And trolls!

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fifi25 · 06/02/2011 12:10

I knew it excisted but never thought about going on it as i dont think any of my friends use it or have mentioned it. I had read about it in the past. My daughters called Romilly and i was interested to find out how many had been registered in 2010 and it came up with a link to mumsnet. Thats was it really and i started having a browse. It sort of draws u in. Whats the Riven thing?

I dont want to make any friends tbh i am just nosey. This is the 1st time i have ever used a talk site/chatroom. I think i will just stick with speaking to my real life friends. Smile

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makemeskinny · 06/02/2011 13:38

what lp's do u know that can afford to shop in m&s?!

Been skint for so long now tho i think even if i could afford to shop in posh shops i wouldnt!

I'll be honest i couldnt be bothered to read all the posts coz reading people's moaning brings me down and i cant be assed.

I love my lil 6 roomed(including hallway) HA flat, wish i could have a staffie tho not allowed pets :( booo!!!

Smile every 1, life is too short!!

tigertiger09 · 06/02/2011 15:09

Hiyer single mom here , two dogs a part time job lovely kids etc, happy with life at mo, dont know what all the abrieviations stand for on this sites anyone know rather confusing !!!

BringOnTheGoat · 06/02/2011 15:15

Tiger - There's a big list of them - acronyms at top of thread - under the big print of mumsnet talk - confused me at first too Smile

gillybean2 · 06/02/2011 17:49

Urm I'm a single parent and I shop in m&s... Mostly because I know the clothes will last a long time and are better value than cheap stuff.

I also treat myself occassionally to their food, they do some of the best vegi options out there. And seeing as I never go out or get takeaways, don't drink or smoke etc I treat myself once every couple of months to a nice ready meal. The rest of the time I live on chocolate stir fry, pasta and baked potatoes so I think that's fair.

Other than that I have a 5 room house(inc the bathroom) which is falling down around me but is all mine (thanks to my gran - though to be honest I'd rather she was still here with us Sad ). I work part time to fit around school hours, ds doesn't go to private school (my salary wouldn't even cover 1 terms fees!). I had never heard of Boden before i came to MN and don't get excited about their sale. And I do get fed up with the medias ideas of both single mums and the type of mums that are to be found on MN.
I certainly don't fit into the descrpition of a supposidly typical MNetter! But then I wonder if anyone does...

BirdFromDaNorf · 06/02/2011 17:56

I am not a lone parent. But I have two tiddlers and they are little monkeys. The swing from each other, hurt each other and I daren't post on MN as I don't want to be told that I'm a rubbish parent. I just want positive suggestions of things I can do, not beating up!!

Never had book suggestions though, that's a new one to me... maybe they were just trying to be helpful? Grin

ninah · 06/02/2011 18:05

I never thought to count my rooms before but yeah I've got 6
Debenhams was slated on here, recently
love the name Romilly

evolucy7 · 06/02/2011 20:36

Tbh honest I think a lot of people on here are not really trying to be nasty if their comments seem controversial, but I think that there is a spirit of a little sporty banter. If you ask for advice, it can sometimes actually be helpful to hear some extreme views, it can sometimes help you see things differently, which can be very productive to balance perhaps your own set ideas.
As gillybean2 said, just because someone shops at M&S or their kids go to private school it doesn't automatically mean that they must be different to you or loaded, it just means in many cases that they have chosen their priorites, sometimes at the expense of other things that perhaps another person would choose to do instead.

Glamour · 06/02/2011 21:50

evolucy7 so people who cant afford to send their children to private school means theyve put things before whats best for their children and they havent got their priorites right? im a little confused by that comment! i could never in a million years afford to sent my little boy private but he comes first no matter what and he has the best of whatever i can get him. i do agree with you on the controversial comments made my other MNetters though