bit confused

[proudmetalmama]

hi everyone

just wanted a bit of advice i am recently single was in a relationship for a year we split 3 weeks ago it wasn't a horrible split and we both agreed it was for the best as it wasn't working out and that we would probably best off just being friends

i have DEC's though none with him the kids had started to become close to him and did enjoyed having him around

i just feel confused at the moment even though it was a mutual agreement and we have both said we would like to be friends in the future i feel very angry that the relationship hasn't worked out I'm starting to think I'm an irrational person while the DEC's are up i keep it all inside but when they are in bed it rears its ugly head

don't get me wrong i still think its for the best to be apart i just don't understand why i feel this way

am i being stupid and irrational or is this normal after a "friendly" split ??

i think splitting up is like a bereavement in many ways, you go through phases of anger, hurt, sadness etc til you reach the final stage of acceptance. As long as you know you have done what is right for all concerned you will come to that stage eventually.

I think however you feel is normal, splitting up is hard and even worse when there are kids involved. take your time, be kind to yourself and give yourself chance to come to terms with things