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[blossomhillred]

can anybody help me.
my xp and i have a court order for when contact is allowed to take place between he and our son, 6.
recently my xp has turned up at his school demanding to see him and has been denied contact by the head. He did this after not turning up for arranged contact for 3 months.
contact has just resumed and i have received an email requesting that i inform the head that xp has got the right to see and speak to his son at school.
surely as we have an order, he is only allowed to see his son whenever that states? i know he has the right to speak to teachers regarding our son as he has parental responsibility.
this doesnt make sense to me? who is right?
thanks

If he has PR then he has the SAME rights as you. Why would you want to deny him this ??

i dont deny him contact and have never refused it but he has a long history of not turning up for contact. he is a nasty, abusive man towards me but i do want him and our son to have a good relationship.
i dont think its acceptable though for him to disapear for months (in the past years) and because he doesnt want to contact me just turn up at our sons school out of the blue when he is supposed to be learning. surely this is disruptive to our son and as we have an order in place all he has to do is see him at these times (which is very generous).

any parent turning up during school hours to see thier child and not turning up for agreed contact sounds like a twat irresponsible to me.

Yes, I would expect my ds' head to politely ask me to sod off if I turned up for no reason during the school day - very disruptive for your ds as well? In this he does have the same rights as you - to drop off and pick up, to go to parents' evenings and school plays and things. And, in the case of an emergency or some pre-arranged event like a doctor's appointment, to pick him up from school during the day. Not just show up.

Equally as he was abusive and you have agreed contact, you could go to court and explain that he is not sticking to contact and is turning up, disrupting school day. Court would take a dim view of his attitude to parenting.

thank you all.
yes i thought it was very strange that his solicitor sent me this email.
i know he can have access to records/ right to parents eves etc and i have pleaded with him in the past to take advantage of these rights but he's not interested.
i am going to reply to his solicitors email stating... actually no, i will not inform the school that ex has the right to see our son during school hours as he only has the right to see our son during times the contact order states. and how irresponsible disruptive etc etc