Contact Order With Ex

[badtimeshey]

My ex was emotionally abusive and the relationship ended with him chasing me upstairs with a clenched fist (but thankfully not hitting me) I brought our daughter to see him regularly for about a month after we ended it but the bullying and threats continued. At the advice of my solicitor I told him contact could now only be arranged through solicitors as he was scaring me too much. He waited 3 months before seeking legal advice and I wasn't receiving payments for her at this time. When I received a letter from his solicitor he didn't even give me chance to get an appt with mine before he took me to court.

Now I'm halfway through this case that has been in progress since Oct '10 and I'm told that despite his treatment of me and his drink problems he's going to get her unsupervised and it's going to be soon. Basically as I have no bruises and he has no convictions, they see nothing wrong with him caring for her alone despite threats to take her away and never come back and the fact he's aggressive and has violent displays where he smashes things up just because he is angry (he even smashed a wardrobe up when he was sober!) Has anyone else had any experiences like these? And what was the outcome?

Was he ever violent to his Daughter?

If the answer is no then even though it's hard yur Daughter shuld get the chance to see Dad.

But it's best to let the court know (If it gets that far) that you have concerns that culd be brought to bear if anything untoward happens.

Good luck.

I am not denying access. In fact all I am pushing for is supervised access until she's old enough to talk better and report if there's a problem.

He never hit her, like he never hit me. He did scare her with his angry displays and was frequently drunk in her presence. Often on nights we stayed at his house he'd drink til he passed out and was unwakeable. Or if he arrived to the house drunk and I was already in bed, he wouldn't lock the door, leaving all of us in a position of danger for the night.

I have told the court of many instances of him breaking things and threats he's made and just the general drunken bad behaviour. All I want is her safety and at the moment he sees her twice a week with his mum's supervision and I don't see why that would need to change until she is a little older.

He has also stopped paying me. When I rang the CSA they said it was because his work circumstances had changed and he couldn't afford to pay me anything. Yet he worked most of December, having to re-arrange some arranged contact due to work and he drives around in a work's van at the moment (suggesting he is employed, I don't know any doleys who drive work's vans!)

you need evidence. pictures of smashed objects for example. reports made to police.

otherwise it is his word against yours.

make sure every communication you have is text or email so you have a record.