Pos-it-ive!!

[Darnsarfupnorf]

You mightve read my other thread, 32 weeks pregnant to a irresponsible, unreliable knob, stuck 100 miles from my famiy alone in a house I cant afford...
so! escaping the negativity and looking forward, not back and thinking of all the positives of my life and my future.

join me girls!....2010 sucked majorly and 2011 hasnt started the best but from now itll be the best year ever!

so....

1. Im having a beautiful little girl in 8 weeks
2. I dont have to share her with anyone, esspecialy the idiot who calls himself her dad
3. I love looking in the fridge after doing a shop and knowing that Im providing all that lovely food for my little baby
4. I love playing with my bump and feeling her kick back
5. most of all I love promising her that even though I wont be able to give her all the toys she wants or even a proper Dad, I will make sure she laughs every day of her life and I will give her all the love I have and more for as long as Im here to give it

Good for you! Your baby will be loved and cared for and when she smiles at you, and when she's older, throws her arms round your neck and tells you she loves you, you'll know it's worth it! My ds is 3, and a moment like that gets me thru a lot.

xx

awww lovely xx

Good for you girl. xxx Us single mums rule! And actually, contrary to what people think, the kids i know who have been raised in single parent households are a lot nicer. Also adults I know have turned out well (1 guy I know in particular) and I was raised just by my mum as my dad died before I was born. Despite having an arsehole XH I have a good job which i'm lucky enough to do part-time, lovely friends and 2 fab kids. Good luck to you!

You can't give her toys and a Dad - says who?
You'll be surprised what effects being positive have!!

Children love everything second hand, hand made, the boxes they come in.Don't sweat toys (and if you do then look on "what was the biggest waste of money ever" on moneysaving expert).

Who's to say when she will get a Dad she deserves. Actually I will - with your attitude it will happen sooner rather than later.

aww lizzy how sad about your dad, hope your right about the single parent kiddies being nicer though!!

justone were being positive! positive, positive, positve! hope shes happy with a paper mache playstation and i knitted DS or whatever they'll have by then!

im giving myself til shes 6 months old then im going fully back on the prowl haha watch out liverpool!!

Good for you, chuck, show her the world, give her experiences and be there for her, with a smile on your face and love in your heart - what child could ask for more!!!

Yay! :)

I like this thread alot more than you other one :)

You seem to be talking more sence and positive :D

glad you have now decided what you want :) x

i think ive always known what ive wanted sweet it was just a case of figuring out what was achievable!

we're still being civil and im still not denying him anything but ive set up my own support group so im not dependant on him anymore :) i think that was half the problem, he wanted me to depend on him so i was and then when he didnt i still was but wasnt getting anything back.

sorted now anyway baby is my life now, not his toy :)

That's nice to hear :)

it will hit him and when it does it will be too late

good luck with everything :)

Ah lovely op x

thankyou :) thought it was about time i actualy said something positive! youll all think im a right moody cow!

Good for you!

Good for you, stay positive!

Fwiw, xp buggered off when I was pg with dd1 and a couple of years later I met lovely dp who she considers her dad. I had no idea it would happen especially as I wasn't looking, I was content with just the two of us.

Good luck with the birth and I hope everything goes fantastically! X

aww lovely

thanks 5 im so excited now i cant wait!! x

How are things going darn?

Not to bad :)

heard from the ex's gf last night being all nicey nicey....ergh! i didnt reply, not getting drawn into it

apart from that things are good thanks :)

was 34 weeks yesterday so im getting really excited now, just getting the last few bits sorted!

so happy for you Darn, such a turnaround, well done

Thanks

Thanks for the support over my 2 threads guys :) I know it mustve been like banging your head against a brick wall sometimes!

bless I think there are lots of positives to being a single parent and like you said not having to share your dd is def one of them. Its always been just me and my dd and its lovely, we have a great relationship and I feel lucky every day for having her!!!

She had her 5th bday party today and Im feeling very pleased with myself as I pulled off a biggish party (18 kids) and did all the organising, food, games, party bags myself and it was great!!! Thats the other fab thing about being a single mum - I can take all the credit!!!

Good luck with it all, have you been given all the advice about sorting out tax credits/ benefits now? It gets a lot harder to orgainise anything once bubs arrives

wow well done gf! i used to work in one of those soft play centers and whenever the parties came in the mums always looked so stressed and the dads always just seemed to make things worse!!
dont know if i could deal wih 18 5 year olds! cross that bridge when we come to it eh...

im working through all the finance faff at the mo! ive got uni and things to sort out too so its a mountain of forms and paper work at the mo but like you said its best sorting it now than when im elbow deep in nappies too!

Hello DSUN,

Good to hear you're still there, and feeling good about the future! Well, I just wanted to say that, despite being on my own with DS, and despite suffering terrible angst at what his father did to the both of us, I often wake in the middle of the night, take stock of my life, and think that I have never felt happier, more whole, more positive and mature, and more capable of creating a good, stable life for us than I have since DS was born.

FWIW, I'd grit your teeth and respond to the GF's nicey nicey email. Something quite formal, neutral and short, I'd advise. That way they can never accuse you of being the one breaking off contact.

i wouldnt bother even emailing her back that way, they wont be able to hold anything u say against you then :)

aww mal I hope i feel like that too when she comes :)

Ive not emailed her back, she'll twist it and use it against me and itll just cause an argument. she sent it to make herself look good because shes 'made the effort' and she knows itll piss me off and she'll get a reaction.
He knows I got it and knows Im not replying and why and thats as far as im going. im rising above it :) she can play her mind games with him all she likes but shes not doing it with me too anymore
I dont really care about being the one to break off contact, i have no reason to talk to her and she has no reason to talk to me and in a few weeks when i move theyll be out of my life completely, thank god

at the end of the day shes not changed but this time the only person shes hurting is my ex and when he realises it he cant blame anyone but himself because hes the one who went back to her and let her treat him like this