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Pat on the back for every 1 :)

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stretchmark · 31/01/2011 19:40

Just wanted to spread a little love in a ever decreasing pants world!!

I got told i was amazing yday for being a LP and and how my (married) friend admired me for what i do for my child. At the time I fobbed her off saying its just doing what you have to do and nothing more, But since then i've been thinking..and us LP's rock!!!

So every one give yourself a pat on the back and have a little virtual hug on me!

Its not often you hear good stuff bout LP's in the media so just wanted to pass the message on to every1 else!!

xx Grin xx

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OhForBoonessSake · 31/01/2011 19:43

thank you for this.

i have been told too that i do a great job and people dont know how i cope. i ususally give the same "you do what you have to response" but i do often think afterwards, that actually, it can be pretty tough going keeping it all together when you are on your own. so i will accept your hug, return it and will pat myself on the back.

happygolucky0 · 31/01/2011 19:45

Thanks for sharing x

OhForBoonessSake · 31/01/2011 19:45

i also bled my boiler for the first time ever today, not a difficult job but one i have never had to do as tehre was always someone i could call to help me. i decided to find out how to do it myself today, i got covered in oil (heading for teh bath soon) but at least my children were able to have a bath and sleep in a warm room. i will pat myself on teh back for that too. Smile

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stretchmark · 31/01/2011 19:48

oo well done!!

I wouldnt even know where to start if mine needed doing!

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stretchmark · 31/01/2011 19:49

...are u ment to do that every so often or only when it breaks?

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OhForBoonessSake · 31/01/2011 19:52

only when you've run out of oil and it becomes airlocked!. dont think it is meant to be doen regularly, i run out of oil often enough for teh boiler to be bled every few months or so anyway! Grin

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stretchmark · 31/01/2011 19:55

Oh dear i didnt even realise u were meant to put oil in itBlush..That makes you even more amazing!!! hee hee

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NoSoapInADirtyWar · 31/01/2011 19:58

Aaw nice thread.

I've felt shitty all day and wanted to just hide under my duvet. Instead I've had to walk dog, take a reluctant ds to school, washed pots, hoovered up, took ds for a hospital appointment, and I've shampoo-ed my living room carpet. Accepts pat on back and goes for a lie down. Grin

I get similar comments as DS has special needs (and doesn't sleep well) and my reply is the same then, you do what you have to do.

I fall into bed every night exhausted but satisfied I have done a good job all on my own. [smug and tired]

OhForBoonessSake · 31/01/2011 20:02

no, the oil goes in the oil tank for the central heating, the boiler is what sends it into teh radiators. when the tank runs dry, air gets drawn into the pipes of the boiler and it needs bled once you have filled the tank again, to draw the oil back into the pipes.

OhForBoonessSake · 31/01/2011 20:03

nosoap, that satisfied feeling is one i haven't had ina long time (long story) but i can feel myself getting back there again. it feels good.

NoSoapInADirtyWar · 31/01/2011 20:07

I try my best to be fairly kind to myself, some nights all I'm patting myself on the back for is very basic stuff - but as I suffer from depression from time to time at times even simple things feel like a mammoth task.

Being the only 'grown up' in the house we have to look out for ourselves as much as our dcs. I struggle to remember this but I do my best.

I have NO idea about rdiators and boilers! Blush Grin

OhForBoonessSake · 31/01/2011 20:15

nosoap i have been in a huge could of depression for the past 2 and a half years, soemthing snapped last week and i feel like i have turned a corner or something. i am starting to look to teh future again. i know how you feel. it is not a nice place to be. i hope things start looking up for you again soon.

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stretchmark · 31/01/2011 20:46

I'm sorry u've both had tough times...think that calls for either a even bigger hug, or getting the wine out!!

I always find that being optimistic really does do wonders in shitty situations, sounds lame but true!!!

xx

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OhForBoonessSake · 31/01/2011 20:51

yes, wine and optimism both help!! Grin

Lizzygirl · 31/01/2011 22:38

Hello wonderful people. Going to do the patting thing myself at your suggestion. No-one else will-except you lot who know how hard it is xxx Hats of to you all! I've been a single mum for approaching 4 years now and have a DD & DS aged 6 & 4. Good days and bad days but yes i keep optimistic. When you do that (it's hard) you do end up attracting a few nicer things/smiles/compliments which make up for never having anyone to put the kettle on or listen to you moan at the end of the day.

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stretchmark · 31/01/2011 22:58

or open the frickin hot water bottle!!!

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OhForBoonessSake · 31/01/2011 23:04

or the jar of pasta sauce!!

Tortoise · 31/01/2011 23:06

I have felt really crap all day today and a lot of other days lately. I don't think i am doing am best but i am doing OK.

Just tonight i managed to have a chat to my 13yr old DS1 about his changed relationship status on FB! I had been a bit upset earlier in the day when i found out from a friend that his relationship status said he is in a relationship with a lad from school. I would have liked him to feel able to tell me himself that he liked this lad/boys in general!

My normal response to people is that i have to cope as no one else is around to help!

dobiegirl · 31/01/2011 23:20

I'm gonna pat myself on the back too!! Thanks for sharing with us, tonight I bought some really shite furniture from B&Q, A chest of drawers for my big daughter and a chest of drawers for my little daughter, I bought some extra wood glue and some extra little nails to tap into the back of the furniture, Ladies I did it!!!

If this furniture doesn't last at least five years then I'm gonna lobby the pope!!!

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stretchmark · 01/02/2011 09:08

ha ha ha dobiegirl I put together a bookcase a few months ago, i was so proud it was my first diy thing and i battered it with the hammer, also glued bits and put a few extra screws in because the dowel bits looked lame. Anywho i sat back feeling all chuffed..then realised i'd put the top shelf on backwards and the edge with the smooth vinyl bit facing the wall and the rough bit that catches on your clothes if u walk too close to it on the outside to give u splinters at the same time. damn it!!! Blush

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ArsMamatoria · 01/02/2011 16:20

The last 18 months have been a very steep learning curve, but I have:

Organised a funeral and memorial.
Given birth to DC2.
Kept on top of financial admin from not understanding or doing any of it before (Blush).
Sold and bought a car.
Managed to let and maintain a flat with all the attendant legal paperwork.
Become a reasonably confident driver - motorways, central London etc - from doing hardly any driving at all.
Organised a prize in OH's name.
Raised £1000 running for charity.
Managed to keep it together when both children and bathroom covered in puke.
Managed not to take a big bunch of pills or jump off a tall building.

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