Top tips to spot a weirdo at 20 paces...?

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I've just started dating again after my last relationship broke down in September. I've met a really lovely guy, and other than being a good few years older than me and having children from a previous relationship, he's lovely - very funny and makes me giggle, cooks, has his own house (does not live with his mum) and we've got interests in common.

I'm now starting to worry about "what's wrong with him" as he does seem to be almost too honest, and I know full well that I am too trusting and take a lot of things at face value, and so wonder if anyone can offer any advice for me to find if he is a weirdo or a genuinely fab catch?

Any advice would be great!

What are his friends like?

Does he 'slag off' his XP?

get a second opinion - ask a friend with good judgement and instinct to meet him

look at signs you're dating a loser it's much quoted on MN(thanks to AF)
sadly if he's a good un he'll have to prove it to you big time,it's your sensible head kicking in post exh/p and thankfully you have it!
both crystal and jelly are spot on with their posts!

Absolutely agree with Cyrstal and Jelly also;
Check out the patterns of how he deals with
women.

Why did they split up.
How long before he felt the need to date again.
Are you similar to XP.

Ooo, wonderful to wake up to replies - thank you for posting!

Crystal, not met his friends - yet - really early days at the moment

Jellykat - he did slag her off a bit when I first met him, but I told him not to mention her when we met the next time, and he said that my saying that made him realise how much he spoke about her. ExW cheated on him though they've been separated 3 years now although I've got no idea how long it'd take to get over something like that properly and honestly to be able to say that you're over it.

Hmm, so next things on the list are to meet him friends....

Thank you again for replies!

Is he on facebook. Maybe that would give you some clues as well.

Does he let you talk or does he tend to talk over you? My exh did that a lot. Is he genuinely interested in your opinions on things? Also have you seen any of his parenting or discussed it as major differences in parenting styles are tough.
I think it was a good move telling him not to talk about the ex as that's a little worrying but not overly so.
He sounds nice from what you've said though, good luck :)

How does he treat bartenders/waiters/taxi drivers etc?

Crystal - not on Facebook :( Shame as I'd usually look there for clues - though good as it means that we won't have any issues about exes etc being on there and all the other problems that come from Social Networking...

He does seem to have an over powering belief that no matter what people are doing and what my opinion is on them or the situation, if it's not hurting anyone, then it doesn't really matter what they get up to - I like this idea, but hope that every conversation that we have will have this thrown in there somewhere...

Portaloo - from what I've seen so far, he treats them like I do, which is like people Which gives him brownie points in my book!

You're all giving me lots to think about, which is GREAT!! Thank you!

I think that finding out what his friends are like, and deciding whether he 'over-shares' when you guys talk are the two best ways to judge.
Also, does he 'like' women.. how does he talk abut his mum/ sisters..?

Oooh, tsalking about his ex of 3 years ago is a bit wierd.. sorry.

I wouldn't think so as she is exW and they have 2 children, so he still sees her often when he picks the kids up/drops them off.

Thanks for advice in other post - I'll keep an eye on those things :)

Ah right, yes that's fine then.

Poor guy, look at me casting aspersions!

Hope all works out happily for you