Contact centre.

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ozzywiz · 29/01/2011 23:40

Okies Im res parent and my ex had first session at contact centre today for a total of 3 hours with 5 kids (age 1-10). i supplied the nappies and baby wipes ext for the one year old. . .

When I collected the children i walked into town with them which is 10 mins walk and when got there checked my daughters nappy and she was wet through, all her clothes were wet so i bought her new clothes in town and went mc donalds to change her . .the babies nappy had not been changed at all since i did it before contact. . should I ignore or take action . . .?

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gillybean2 · 30/01/2011 02:46

Change it before you go to the centre.

If he only has 3 hours a week he may not realise it needs changing (if not been a hands on parent) or may not want to spend the time doing it which means leaving the other 4children on their own while doing so.

balia · 30/01/2011 15:13

Ignore. If it was the first session in a while it would have been a high stress situation and probably a very emotional one, too.

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ozzywiz · 30/01/2011 22:39

Yeah fair enough, I was planning on phoning sol tomorrow to send a letter out as a reminder this has to be done cause it was so uncomfortable for the one year old. and stressfull on all the other 4 having to go into shop rushing to buy clothes to go mcdonalds to change her. . .

and in the 8 months in my sole care the nappy has never been this wet. . .

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cestlavielife · 31/01/2011 12:28

i guess the obvious thing is you check her and change her nappy when she comes out of contact. contact centre is short time for him (whatever the background to this is) so toiletting is not going to be a priority....

presume the other Dc should also go toilet before you begin walking into town too....

and also take spare clothes out with you just in case.

Truckulente · 31/01/2011 12:30

Are you seriously on about sending a solicitors letter because when the father saw his children for 3 hours he didn't change a nappy?

DingDongMerrilyAsCheese · 31/01/2011 12:36

ozzywiz - tough time huh?

I have a lot of sympathy for you and I remember the whole going to a contact centre for the first time with littleding.

I'd make a list of what you need to stick in a backpack for next time, snacks change of clothes etc and just take it along with the DC's and leave it. That way as your ex becomes more confident about what's going on you're giving him the chance to do it. If not, you can make the change as soon as you collect.

Good luck, it does get easier, I promise

NoSoapInADirtyWar · 31/01/2011 12:38

I think 3 hours between nappy changes is not necessarily the worst thing in the world.

Just check it when arriving there and before leaving maybe? You are bound to be feeling a bit odd if contact in a centre has just started so I do think it was a good idea to come on here to see how others felt about it. Don't write the sols letter, pick our battles.

Also, I used to carry a baby grow in DS's bag as he was a drink guzzler and often wet through his clothes instantly in one wee, there was no way I could afford a new outfit if he did it while we were out. [sympathy]

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