ex whats back in childs life

[RoseAnn]

ex hhas had lil to do with child for the last few mnths and has sent no money.

recently he has come back saying hes changed and wants to be envolved to points of conceren one he has never looked after child on own even when we were together and secondly his behaviour after we split did nt fill me with confidence i suggested i would take child to his grans n we can meet ther he can see seid child and ecan slowly be reintroduced child can build up trust in him and so can i
however the cost of traveling to his grans which is a train journey away is so great n with no income coming in from him i suggested he meet me in the town closer to me n her could take child to park muesem soft play ect.
he then text me to inform me that he would not be coming up n that i had to take her to his grans or hed get soleter envolved saying i was being unresonable
i woundered if any one knows were i stand legaly
and im secared he might do something silly like try go get child from nursry i mean they have only meet him ones a year or so ago so i dnt no if they rember him bt i mean can he do that???

thanks

NO you don't have to take your child anywhere. If he wants to see him, he can fetch him.

Tell the school the child is only to be picked up by you.

You don't have to pay for him to see the child

Contact csa to get child support if you haven't already. Keep record of all texts and don't engage with the bullying ones.

i am not im ensuring that every text i send emphersises why i feel x y n z is in childs best intrest and welfare and explain why i thnik that is even when hes realy nasty back to me.

how do i get in contact with csa

I know someone that had to bring the child to where the father lived, and he had to take the child to where she lived after a court hearing, as there was a huge difference in income he had to pay for her travel expenses.

How about saying you can take her to gran's but only if he is willing to pay the costs of travel. Explain that you are happy for dc to go there but having looked at it you can't afford it on a regular basis and point out that with no maintenance being received you can not afford extras like train fares.

If he does agree to pay the travel costs make sure you get the money in advance, otherwise you'll get there and he won't pay up. Or get him to buy and send you the tickets.

Have you spoken to the gran? Explain the situation to her and she may be able to help, either finincially or by ensuring he helps you. I'm sure she is looking forward to seeing her grandchild too. Presumably you are on speaking terms if you are willing to send your dc there.

CSA isn't always that easy, they have a hige backlog and will need chasing and is very dependant on how your ex is paid as to whether you get money quickly/easily/reliably through them.
www.csa.gov.uk/

You would get travel costs on top of maintenance, as the lady I knew did, she went to csa for child maintenance so had the extra on top.