I tell u what, u need to have balls of steel his do this Internet datng malarky!

[Scaredofmycomputertoday]

On a certain dating site someone checked out my profile, so I checked out his, he looked nice so I winked at him, he winked back so I PM'd him saying, "shall we move the winks on to pm'ing now? You have covered a lot of bases in your profile, am sure we could find something to talk about."

Within five minutes he replied with "actually..........no! Someone who is just out of a relationship and "treading carefully" is probably not going to be "open" enough for me! And the fact that u mention financials in your profile is VERY off putting to me" and then he "ignored" me so I couldn't respond even if I WANTED to! Now when I mentioned financial it was in the following sentence "I am pretty sorted in most areas healthwise, practically, emotionally, financially etc", when describing myself.

Just found it Unnecessarily nasty and the ignoring me straight away so I couldn't even respond a bit weird. De-regging on Monday. I being rejected unpleasantly by people who have never met me!

You are taking it too personally. DO you say you'rejust out of a relationship on your profile? What on earth made you put that??
Are you sure you're actuall ready to be dating at all?

I did put that because I read loads of other profiles with people summing up previous relationship history briefly. had quite a bit of interest actually even with THAT on my profile. It was quantified by saying that I want to start things slowly and see how it goes, again in line with many other profiles I read before writing mine.

Maybe I need a master class in profile writing!

He sounds like a cock. There is nothing wrong with your profile.

I think treading carefully, taking slowly, seeing what happens, is fine. Just out of relationship isn't, because it implies you might not be over the old one.

The financial stuff is absolutely fine - I suspect that this dick was put off by the fact that you describe yourself as pretty sorted and he's looking for a car crash. If he was so put off by your profile, why did he wink back at you in the first place? Gameplaying nonsense, no? Don't let him put you off.

Tbh I think I would be put off by the bit about being fresh out of a relationship though. It would make me think they're not really ready to be dating and hung up on their ex. Which isn't necessarily the case obviously, but it's obviously a big enough issue for you to put it on your profile.

But regardless of that, he sti sounds like a cock. But don't rake it personally if someone blocks you. I used to do it to people all the time

Phew thanks Scarlett. I have had responses telling me they like my profile and a lot more interest than I had anticipated so something must be ok with it.

Ok, maybe take that bit out then, but honestly in context it reads well, I thought anyway. Thanks for taking the time reply everyone .

But why, if you've had lots of positive responses, are you letting one negative one pt you off? I obv don't know your situation but I doubt you're in the right frame of mind for internet dating atm.

Maybe. Was just looking for someone to chat with and maybe meet up with if all went well. I know I am probably NOT ready for anything serious, but certainly am for a few drinks and laughs.

what site are you on?
tbh from what you've said (tho i haven't read your profile)you're not at all sure about what you want and it obv shows esp your final post!
agrees with boo
do you want to go out on dates with the possibility of taking things further if it works out?
i've done the internet dating thing and the biggest shovel load of salt is needed trust me!
if you want to give it a serious go then imo i would review your profile and make it more positive and upbeat,less chance of attracting scumbags
don't be afraid to use the block button either lol

He shouldn't have winked at you if he didn't like your profile.

But definitely take down the stuff about your relationship history. That's not something you need to tell strangers, anything relevant will come out gradually as you get to know someone.

FWIW I'd also take the stuff down about being financially sorted, in case it attracts gold digging weirdos

Have also just started along the internet dating lines and, wow!

So many weirdos out there!

1, chatted for about 2 hours online, 2 days later I say 'hi' in a personal message and he replies 'you're taking things too quickly, I'll let you know when I want to talk to you'...erm, Bye, no control freaks welcome here!

1. Chatting online and he asks me to send him a photo of my kids...erm, Bye and block again!

1. Chat online 3 nights running, meet for a coffee, chat for about 2 hours, finish with him saying 'have really enjoyed meeting you, would love to see you again'. Have heard nothing!

1. Chat online, text message, chat on phone. Then he asks about my children and puts the phone down! I text asking what's the problem he texts 'a couple of kids is ok, a few is not' (I have 3 kids). I suggest he specifies this in his profile, he tells me that he has...it's definitely not on there, even got my DSis to check. Block again!

Where o you find normal men? Seriously!!

Patience - that all you need.
And pelase don't get dishartened.

TBH - after over 20 months on internet dating, being on and off various sites I finally met someone who I hope I will have relationship with.

Had quite few highly unsuccessful dates and almost given up as it took toll on my trust and ability to believe that I am able to judge by what they say/write about themselves.

In my eyes those guys who are ready for commitment say so and behave accordingly, I stopped wasting time on those who wanted to take things slowly or jump to bed after first date.

In a way istopped being affected by their behaviour but it made me indifferent to everyone else, until the last guy and I started chatting - and for the first time I feel that I am not wasting my time etc.

PMSL @ ballstoit especially weirdo No 1 !!!

Thank god not interested in men atm as when the time comes this will probably be the route I have to take...