Hi folks,
I've only recently came across these forums, boy do i wish i came across it years ago. However I want to send out some positive vibes to alot of the younger and newer LPs out there.
DS has never had dad or "sperm donor" in his life, its been me and him since day one (now 14). Yes its been hard at times but im sure some married mums say the same thing. He's a lovely boy, does well at school has a good social network and im so proud.
I have had a few wobbles over the years, the loneliness never goes away, i have just learned to live with it. I have never had any long term relationships in the 14yrs, a few smaller 2/3 months flings but thats been about it. Suppose i never got the opportunity with it just being me n ds. This is my challenge for 2011, i have been reading the dating thread so need to pick up some tips.
During my time as a mum i have got into horrendous debt, had my house repossessed,but turned it around went to uni, graduated, got myself a good job which i love and learned to live within my means. Its harder as kids get older but ds accepts thats its just my wages coming in and it can only go so far.
I was really struggling end of last year and got some counseling support, i would really recommend this. The girl there taught me to look at how well i have done, and still doing. I have a very fulfilled life and dont really need the "man" in my life to make it complete. Dont need it, but would like to share some of my life with someone someday.
The moral of my story is ... so far so good, have a look at what you all have achieved, cos when you do realise how much we all have got it makes us enjoy every day... if I can get through 14yrs of being a LP anyone can, cheers folks :)