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lookin for other mums in my boat

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Bettyboo7 · 25/01/2011 21:11

m 23 recently single with 2 children. They are my life but finding it hard as many friends dont understand as they dont av kids themselves and are too busy to lend a helpin hand. Anyone feel lonely and like they cant cope sometimes? x

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WherecanIhide · 26/01/2011 17:27

Hi, I just thought I'd reply and say 'hello'.

I think you need to find other young single mums. I don't know if you've got a Children's Centre near you?

I bet anaything there are LOADS of other young single mums who feel the same as you. I'm a lot older and feel the same!

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Bettyboo7 · 26/01/2011 20:53

so it dont get better? lol. Thanks for the advice, av a few friends with kids but not that i wud consider ppl i'd go to wen down. not sure about children centre but al def av a look xxx

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happygolucky0 · 26/01/2011 21:33

Hi ya have you tried Toddler groups? Do you work at all or study? Going to work helps me to stay fairly sane most the time!! Do you have any family to help you out nearby?

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Bettyboo7 · 26/01/2011 21:56

ive taken my youngest to tumble tots but mums not very chatty and cant afford it now. Ye i work part time and go to night college so i do get adult time. Its jus with my eldest being such hard work its makin everything alot worse xx

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Bettyboo7 · 26/01/2011 21:57

and yes i have family, my parents adore the kids but my sis doesnt have any so doesnt understand x

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bliss88 · 26/01/2011 22:13

hey..im a ew single mum just three weeks ago and my dh walked out on us with no reason. i compleatly know how you feel about friends they are all to busy to lend a hand and dont realise that a carton of milk would be great, ha sounds silly but u need a good old brew when you feel like excuse my french fucking shit. ive been jong toddler groups as my ds is only 18mnths, and that hs been huge support. keep yourself busy do you work? as i dont atm im struggling to keep going, the nights are the worst! where are you from its a shame we cant meet as we could do with a i hate men slagging session hah! hope this makes you feel better you really arent alone x

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Bettyboo7 · 26/01/2011 22:39

lol u sound jus like me. My youngest is 17months old. Not sure wat the ds stands for lol, u av a son? i got 2 daughters. Im in blackpool where u? I work part time so i do get out jus wen am stuck in its bad xxx

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luciemorgan3 · 27/01/2011 02:43

hi there, i completly understand where your coming from ive bin on my own for 6mth now and am finding it hard at time 2! my youngest is 2 and drives me up the wall but is a angle for every one else, i no its easy for me to say but things will get better might not seem it now but day by day it will get better,xx

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Bettyboo7 · 27/01/2011 09:21

ive been single for 3 months now after 8 yrs so was a bit of a shock but once i got used to it i was fine up till now. Ive got a lot goin on and i guess sometimes things do jus get a little too much. 2's a hard age too, potty training, goin into a bed, gettin rid of dummy lol, got in all to come in a few months xxx

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happygolucky0 · 27/01/2011 17:53

It sounds if your little ones are very young and close in age. So things will get easier. At 2 they can drive you up the wall and be too self determined for their own good!! The weather doesnt help much either (too cold to go out to the park ect) We have toddler groups in a church hall or similar her (Bournemouth) and it is around a pound and you get a cuppa. Ds stand s for darling children or dd daughter ect ( i think ) !! Its great that you work and are studying is there any young Mums there with kids similar ages to yours, sometimes its easier when there are other children around, also a extra pair of hands. What are you studying?

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Bettyboo7 · 27/01/2011 20:06

jus doin my maths as dint get it at school. hopin it'll help me get a better job. ya pretty much need it for anythin now dont ya. My eldest is 6 n other is 17months so buit of a gap but still hardwork. Not sure which is worse, def after today lol. i only go to college 1 nite a week so dont get to no alot of them and the few i do no r younger with no kids, or repsonsibilities at all for that matter lol. We av a toddler group where i work but everyones in groups n most r quitre a lot older and disapprove of me bein so young with 2. I'll find one :) thanx for advice xxx

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happygolucky0 · 27/01/2011 21:51

lol sorry didn't read all the posts properly ( thought your dc were 17 months and 2 !!! ) Oh well it could be worse for you if you look at like that. Yeah it can be more of a problem though when they are not similar age as the little one wants to get everywhere the older one does. am abit shocked that the Mums are making you feel bad for being a young Mum. I have been a childminder for many years and dealt with many families in my experience age doesn't matter at all when being a parent. Well done on doing your maths. I was doing a degree ( did two years) but found it such a struggle I took a year out ... then another lol its open to go back and finish its just time/money. Drag your sister or a mate to the toddler groups with you till you meet some people and find a few people you like!

JustForThisOne · 28/01/2011 12:12

oooh I wish I was in your boat Smile
I have the feeling I am on the old dinghy further out

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