My daughter is 20 months old. I was in a brief relationship with her father - he didnt think to tell me he was engaged to someoene else. It got pretty messy when his fiance found out about me especially as i was pregnant. I genuinely had no idea about her otherwise i would have never started a relationship with him.
He is a complete twat. He has 8 kids to 8 different women and he only sees 1 of them which is the one he has to his fiance. He makes his fiance pay him to look after thier son when she goes to work. he has never had a job in his life and is incredibly lazy. I never knew any of this until a few months after my daughter was born.
Throughout my pregnancy he was in and out of my life. He never turned up to scans and came to see me a couple of times. When he was out at the pub he would tell anyone that would listen that he was going to have a daughter and he was so excited but if you asked him when he was sober if the baby was his he would deny it completely.
He didnt turn up for the birth even though he was told i was in labour and it took him 3 months to get in contact to come and see her. He saw her for nearly 5 minutes then just walked away. He was slagging me to the ground behind my back and kept denying that the baby was his. When i asked him why he kept denying it he said he wasnt and that he wanted to see her. he never turned up.
I finally cut contact with him when my daughter was 13 months old because he didnt turn up to her first birthday party. he said nobody told him it was her birthday but to be honest its his own child so thats something he should (and did) know.
I havent seen him for a few months now as i have avoided going out incase i bump into him or his fiance but recently he has been talking to my parents when they have been in the pub.
He is really angry that i have 'stopped him' from seeing his daughter. i have never ever said he was not to see her and he was the one never turning up or getting in contact. he is angry that i have got a new partner (that ive been with for 9 months) and doesnt like that my daughter spends time with another father figure. I could understand him getting upset about it if he actually saw his daughter but he cant even spell her name and knows nothing about her at all. he has saw her 3 times in 20 months.
I was receiving maintenance from him of £1.25 a fortnight (yes really) but i got it stopped a few months ago because i dont want anything from him.
I dont want him to have any contact with his daughter especially as he keeps denying he is the father.
he has failed to do 2 DNA tests that i arranged so what rights does he have if he was to challenge me for access in court?
i have still got voice recordings and text messages from him denying that my daughter is his.