Has anybody else started a thread on here for advice and help, but just found yourself being torn down and critisiced by a lot of negative, sometimes mean opinions?!

[LittleBeth53]

Is it just me?

Seems like everything I post & every other ladies threads I read are bogged down with criticisms & even some insults.

I have read one girl's thread who is having some trouble with an ex, turned to this site for help & is just getting posts saying, "your life sounds like an episode of Shameless," & "get yourself on Jeremy Kyle."

Good god. I mean, I believe in free speech & everything but people turn to this site for advice & help from other like minded mothers & pregnant women when they feel like they have nowhere else to turn. I certainly did & now I'm sincerely reconsidering the amount of times I visit this website!

What's going on??!!

I have to agree that many people seem to type on MN what they would never say face to face in RL.
Personally, I try to give positive advice where possible and keep quiet if I don't have something reasonably nice to say, but some people seem to enjoy laying in to people.

I wonder how many attacks we'll get for this thread?!!! :o

Shurup you!!

Jokes

I haven't done that but have been flamed for stating my opinion that her husband was cheating on OP ..

I think it can depend on what threads you post. I've not often seen that kind of comment on LP for example. We are a much smaller group here generally too. But in _chat or AIBU you see a lot more of it.

i have seen the sort of thing you are talkig about, but again not in teh lone parent topic. and i have to be honest, any of the tiems i have seen those sorts of responses, i tend to agree. it is usually the type of posts where they have posted a million different problems all rolled into a 3 week relationship and really the only sensible advice is to tell them to sort themselves out. harsh but true, most of the time.

look at the moon in the right corner.....full moon = mumsnet kicking off!

also, MN isn't for everyone. it doesn't sugar coat everything. you ask a question and you'll get opinions.

Totally, someone might come on with a reasonable query or for some advice and then gets it both barrells.
Honestly some people just seem like they enjoy stirring and having a go.

Little Beth 53 There are some very strong, sensible women on here who do offer excellent advice and superb support.

Your post last night in relationships was very positive and the op appreciated it as she was able to identify with someone who had been through a similar set of circumstances. I agree with RuthChan, on relationships I tend to keep quite if I don't have anything positive to offer.

Sorry I'm not very eloquent at the moment but you helped last night, so don't let stupid inane comments put you off.

I agree, the LP threads aren't too bad, the worst I've experienced is in the PG threads.

I was brought up to believe that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Sometimes I read threads & think, 'that is pure daft nonsense,' but I don't say it.

I do whole heartedly believe in freedom of speech but I've read some real nasty things recently.

I love some of the Mumsnetters, so sweet & supportive, really listening & putting thought into people's problems. Just recently I've read so many women & mothers tearing strips out of each other!

x x x

I've experienced this once I commented on an OP asking about induced labour I have experience of being induced didn't want to worry the OP so was being really positive saying how my labour progressed naturally after being induced labour was only 6hrs didn't feel to painful and someone else chose to inform me everyone that everyone knows that induced labours last longer are more painful basically that I didn't know what I was talking about, Sorry but I had experienced it first hand! While this person had sat reading all the books so only had theoretical experience

'look at the moon in the right corner.....full moon = mumsnet kicking off!'

I've just looked and it's at it's fullest tomorrow. Tin hats at the ready!

Well, sometimes someone is being an absolute fucking idiot who deserves to have this pointed out to him/her.

It's me too

I started one a while ago asking for advice because i was really struggling with money after my mat leave ended.

I got told i was taking money from people that really needed it, and that i should go out and get a job to fund my lifestyle and family not expect the government to do it. Then i got told i was lying about the amount of tax credits i recieved.

I tried to explain that i was a LP with a 8 month old baby so couldn't really just go out and get a job instantly but one poster just kept having a go. There was some supportive people on helping me out but by the end of the thread i just felt like a bad lazy mum

Know what you mean OP. Some posts seem like the poster is just taking the opportunity to vent some spleen. Hard luck when it's a really sensitive topic tho.
Agree the LP threads have a much nicer tone usually

Well I pop in here but mostly hang out in Relationships where I am constantly amazed by the support and effort posters make to help people

Maybe I need to check out somewhere else on MN [creature of habit emoticon] or maybe not !!