The strain of decision making alone

[MassacreOHara]

Now mostly I'm quite content being a single mum but recently when trying to think about schools for next year I've suddenly felt quite stressed out about having to make decisions like this with nobody to talk to about them.

I feel like I'm making a decision that will mould my dd's life and I'm making it alone. Feel quite stressed but also quite sad about it.

Now obviously this is a new feeling for me but I was just wondering if anybody else has felt the same way or if this is more likely to be stress from work manifesting itself in another way.

ooh m tell su a ns well have an opinion

My sil is a single parent and she ofetn says this to me. Maybe you have to turn it round and think, ok I am making this decision alone but I know my child best, I am the best person in the world to know what's right for him. The only person who can do this, in fact.

Do you have family you could talk to about it?

Just worrying about whether I've made the right decision. Hhow I'm going to get her into the local pre-school so she can make some friends when it's only 2 hours a day during term time. Just stressed generally I think and that time of the month isn't helping as I changed my pill and it's been making me really emotional. BUMHEADS!

Started talking to my folks but they just worry so I tell them that everything's cool. Then my dad started talking about her going private and had I considered it but I just don't think I can afford it and still live comfortably. Also I'm overly concerned about her getting bullied at a provate school for being the poorest kid. My dd's father contributes nothing financially.

Can you tell my parents managed to stress me out even more!

If there wasn't a choice a guess it wouldn't be so hard but I just wish I could say to someone but what about this compared to this and how would we work after school and breakfast care if she went to this school.

I am soo stressed about how I'm going to cope with school from next year I just don't know what to do about it.

At the moment I drop dd off at nursery at 8 in work by 8:15 work straight through and pick dd up at 6. god how am I going to 'do' school!

You'll make the right decision for her because you're her mum and your gut feeling will be the right one.
It's amazing how you get a feeling about a school - I had to pick a school for my 2 when I came back from the US after leaving xp. I nearly went demented totting up pros and cons, and discussed it ad nauseum with any poor sod who would listen - but in the end went with my instinct for a school that everyone else said wouldn't be academic enough for ds. And he's happier now than I've ever seen him.
But I'm so knackered with being the one who takes ultimate responsibility for everything, I could bloody weep. Poor you having work stress as well, it sounds like you've got just about everything piling up at the moment.

Lots of stress at work at the moment and I know it's contributing. Also I'm finding it difficult thinking about it without getting emotional which is making it harder.

I'm sure she'll be fine whatever, just want her to have the best start in life and be happy.

M I know how you feel. But just imagine if you were with a p you did not see eye to eye with and felt you should compromise, or argued. A joint decision is not always better, though I do know what you mean about the full mantle of resposibility.

There seems so much at stake, doesn't there.
I'm sure with a mum like you she's in poll position already. Don't worry!

Ninah, absolutely agree which is why I would never discuss it with her father (and besides the fact that he doesn't have parental responsibility) and I'm so grateful I'm not with him as can imagine the arguements we'd have abourt discipline!

Just feel really nervous about making this decision. She's so bright but a very sensitive girl and it all has the potential to go horribly wrong!!

Ninah, on a seperate note - how are you? did you chat with your p/dp?