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So I condemned my children to a life of...

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lilacisinlove · 12/01/2011 21:44

poverty, unemployment, low educational attainment, alcohol and drug abuse, teenage pregnancy, petty crime and mental health problems when I ended my marriage (this is according to my ex).

Strange then, that DD1, age 13 and the youngest in her year at school, told me this afternoon that she came top in her year for English, maths AND science last term. She's also taking her maths GCSE in a couple of months.

ExH also told me that I had ruined his life, but since he was dating again weeks after I moved out and has a new partner now, I suspect he was wrong about that too.

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nameymacnamechanger · 12/01/2011 21:46

Yay for DD1, you must be so proud. Smile

I can see why your ex is an ex Grin.

Hassled · 12/01/2011 21:46

:o. You should be bloody proud of yourself. And YAY!! to your DD1 - a clever, clever girl.

HeadsUp · 12/01/2011 21:47

Think you answered your own question :)

HerBeatitude · 12/01/2011 21:48

And he had nothing to do with condemning them to all that, did he?

Meglet · 12/01/2011 21:49

Grin. Well done! Good luck to your DD in her exams!

Funny how quickly these XP's bounce back isn't it. Mine was with someone after 6 months. 2 years on I'm just plodding on raising the small people.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 13/01/2011 01:40

last week, my ex couldn't get over me, now he is seeing someone les Hmm

well done you and your dd.

WhyHavePets · 13/01/2011 02:08

Well done dd Smile

Clearly your ex reads Daily Mail?

Hehe, ex's are fab, endless sources of entertainment. There is a good reason they are ex, they clearly just cannot make the grade as real life human beings Wink

thumbwitch · 13/01/2011 02:19

Hurrah for you leaving that twunt, and hurrah for your DD for doing so well! Good luck for her exams - hope she does really well in those too.

Gonzo33 · 13/01/2011 08:50

My ex went back to HIS ex the day I left him and our house had been sold. For the next seven years he professed to still love me (more like love my money).

You must be very very proud of your daughter, you are clearly doing a fabulous job. Well done you (now let me have your secret...ha ha)

Me xx

Ooopsadaisy · 13/01/2011 08:59

Ex sounds like a manipulative mind-fucker.

Be proud of your ds.

Be proud of you.

Scruffyhound · 13/01/2011 11:56

Well done you! My ex told me crap like this when I wanted to leave you cant move there its not good for DS, you cant do this I was like I will do what the hell I want thats why Im leaving they try to make you feel bad before you go and make out its you with the problem when in fact its them with the issue that why your going! And yes I had the no one will replace you and I want to kill my self phase then 2 months later hes dating then she moved in..... total crap ignore it you do what is best for you and your kids! Smile

Allalone0 · 13/01/2011 12:01

I agree with you Ooops.

Well done to your dd Lilac!!

My son is also 13, he could have done a GCSE this year (in yr 9) but he felt he wants to wait abit. Im so so very suprised and pleased at how well he is doing. Despite all the crap that we have been through this past year and a half.

He can behave like a young responsible MAN at times. And is abit like a caring Father figure for my dd who is 7.

Just the other day i was told that i had no shame, (by my ex) for having kicked him out of the house! And that i have got what i wanted i.e. FREEDOM!!!

When the reason behind me separating from him, is because he had been abusing our one and only dd!!! www.mumsnet.com/te/3.gif

What an absolute B***D!!!!www.mumsnet.com/te/6.gif
Aswell as being so Delusional!!!

Sorry for hijacking your thread Lilac...:)

Allalone0 · 13/01/2011 12:02

I agree with you Ooops.

Well done to your dd Lilac!!

My son is also 13, he could have done a GCSE this year (in yr 9) but he felt he wants to wait abit. Im so so very suprised and pleased at how well he is doing. Despite all the crap that we have been through this past year and a half.

He can behave like a young responsible MAN at times. And is abit like a caring Father figure for my dd who is 7.

Just the other day i was told that i had no shame, (by my ex) for having kicked him out of the house! And that i have got what i wanted i.e. FREEDOM!!!

When the reason behind me separating from him, is because he had been abusing our one and only dd!!! :(

What an absolute B***D!!!!Angry
Aswell as being so Delusional!!!

Sorry for hijacking your thread Lilac...:)

corlan · 13/01/2011 13:05

Well done to you and your daughter Lilac.

It really pisses people off when our kids don't live up to the troubled child from broken home stereotype doesn't it.Grin

ddrmum · 15/01/2011 22:29

Congrats to you and your dd!! I hope my little people are as well adjusted. Exs really don't like it when we don't conform to the single parent stereotypeHmm lol.

guyane · 15/01/2011 22:44

Thanks OP for the post - I'm just about to embark on this path and can take courage from this reassurance ... Smile.

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lilacisinlove · 15/01/2011 22:59

guyane, go for it. Leaving him was the best thing I have done in a long time.

whyhavepets...I'm somebody's ex, yet still consider myself a real life human being!

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Meesh13 · 16/01/2011 20:20

Its a good job that 'us' women are 'strong, independant, capable and focused.. sometimes we forget!!!
Be happy x

kayah · 16/01/2011 22:37

well fone for your dd

if only all kids of married parents were like yours - schools would have much less issues with behaviour management :)

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